DH and I both have large families and see them regularly. Within our families we have a number of older relatives, like over 60/70, who do things with DD 8 months that we dislike such as kiss her on her lips or allow her to put her fingers in their mouths when she's touching their faces.
I've tried to set them straight by saying things like "No DD fingers out of mouths!" to which they'll reply something like "No it's fine I don't mind" and then I don't really know where to go from there so I'll make an excuse to take DD off them. I'm really not good with speaking up and it's usually in a large group and I don't want to make it awkward.
I feel like I just need to say something to make my position clear that I find it unhygienic and they should stop, but I don't want to be *****y to older relatives who I know don't mean to offend me it's just they did things differently in their day. What would you say? The hard part is these relatives are not close like parents where you can just say how you feel, they're uncles/ aunties/ grand uncles and aunts; I just have no idea what to say, how do you say keep your lips off my child!! Without sounding *****y?