finances are a touchy topic but one that couples really fight about
if i'm dating a very caring person, but they have no financial security
they are renting
they have changed career every few years trying many things
they probably dont have much for retirement
they spend freely on luxuries that i wouldnt spend easily on
they talk about how they want to build wealth in a way that sounds like an idiot talking aobut buying 20 properties when they have never bought any and dont show that they have the huge devotion and sacrifice and focus to really do that.
i've already been married to one person who pulled me down financially and cant risk.
As a rule i tend to go out with only people who have financial security, eg they own a house they have some secure income, not someone who has changed career every few years without much success for decades
they dont spend easily on luxuries they cant afford,
or if they spend easily on them they easily can afford them.
all this is a huge worry for me
what is all i can find out to not risk losing someone who i might be able to work things out with
and yet what are all the questions i should get answers to.
i know its noble to say money doesnt matter but its known to be a huge source of fights in marriages and i would prefer to be alone than to riskbeing brought down by someone.