I pride myself for being an attentive Mum more than I pride myself in my appearance. My 2nd baby was a very sick baby. Not only did I have a busy toddler who sapped my energy, I also had a very sick little bubba to care for. I regularly went days without a shower during her first year of life, and sometimes when I fainted at 5pm, I realised that I hadn't eaten anything all day. It was the worst hell that I have ever been through, and I don't even remember what my appearance was during that year. Now that she is getting older & is becoming healthier, I am starting to care for myself again. I am doing things for ME! I'm eating well and exercising and I had a hair cut the other day, for the first time in about 2 years. I'm shaving my legs! Waxing my eyebrows! I'm going out on date nights with my DH. These are all things that I like to do for myself, not because I am concerned for my appearance, but because they are how I take care of my own needs. But sometimes, being a mother is just about surviving, and we do put ourselves last out of necessity. I would never ever judge a mum for taking care of her kids needs before her own.
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Only over the last year or so have I started doing things for me. Wearing nicer fitting clothes, make up, eating better. I even got my eyebrows waxed, watch out!
Does this mean I'll have more friends now?
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I'm one of those mums who will take about 15-20 mins to quickly straighten hair, put make up/moisturiser on, put something half decent on... depending on my mood/sleep of course... one day I went to the local Westfield, and I noticed a few ppl looking at me, and it wasn't til I got home I realised that when I took my shoes off, I was wearing my size 6 ladies pink masseur on my left foot and my hubby's size 9 black masseur on my right foot.. lol. I don't know how I didn't even notice one shoe was heaps bigger.. I didn't even look down. I was too excited to just get some free time away from the kids and had the last Harry Potter book on hold for me at my local bookstore...
Im one of them mums.
My world revolves around DS. I know he wont be small forever, and he will be off to school in a few years time, we are TTC and i dont know when #2 will come along, and these moments will be fewer and further between. Im going to cherish every moment with him i have.
That being said, i always have clean clothes (maybe ill-fitting... Im yo-yoing lately so have a variety of sizes) but my hair is always done. I cant leave the house unless ive showered and done my hair. I NEVER wear makeup, i never have worn it daily. Its just not me.
I also don't see the point wearing nice clothes to have them stained with paint, glue, torn, stretched (DS love to pull/swing on clothes. Drives me )
On a 'good' day. If i know we are doing something other than groceries etc, i may pull on some leggings and a dress or something... However i then run into another drama. I can NOT get ladies shoes to fit my massive man sized feet. Makes dressing up nice near impossible, because Mens shoes are freaking ugly! They dont exactally make nice sandals with a slight heel to suit a dress for men to wear. Or nice boots, that arent rossi steel cap pull ons. I literally live in my MENS, size 12/13 Asics runners...or black thongs
I agree that a lot of mums put themselves last, I know I do and it isn't good. WHat I object to is the insinuation that putting yourself means wearing makeup and nice clothes. Personally I believe there is way more to life than that. I have just started me time by going back to uni, gardening with a passion, getting healthy etc. I think it a little shallow that putting yourself first equals makeup!
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