I'm that mum.
Being single we don't have a lot of money, the kids get what they need first and I'm left with old clothes that are 2 sizes to big because I've lost weight.
I don't like it but the kids need to have what they need before I buy myself new clothes.
I never really got the opportunity to buy clothes without having 2 kids fighting at my feet, further to that, I was losing weight so didn't want to buy new clothes that wouldn't fit for very much longer. Add to that the fact I had an under 2 year old so carrying her wrecked my clothes, why buy new clothes thats just going to get ruined?
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I don't shave, I don't wear fashionable clothes, there often ill fitting (weight loss/gain cycle) and I would would much rather buy something we need than clothes for me. I NEVER wear make up and well my hair is the last thing I care about.
Seriously who gives a rats bum what I look like, my friends and family accept and love me for who I am not what I look like. If your in a crisis I am the first one there, and doesn't matter to me if I have to step in cow poo to help you. Clothes are just clothes. They wash.
To answer your question "that just who I am."
Everything above and add- pregnancy changed my body shape so even clothes I did look good in pre-kids don't fit we'll any more.
My kids look awesome because I am lucky enough to have some beautiful hand me downs for them. Unfortunately none for me!
And I have a day-hugger baby (she wants to be held all day)- I can barely go to the toilet without her losing it. How am I supposed to invest the time into my appearance if I can't even wee in peace?
Right now i just had a shower for the first time since getting home from night duty and i needed it. I havent brushed my hair yet and travelled into the city. I never buy clothes or shoes for myself so what i have are really old currently.
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I just don't have the time anymore or even want to spend all that money on myself anymore! Since I had my son priorities shifted away from myself, I just don't need to be attractive for others or what they think I should look like, it's very liberating after spending years buying clothes, getting hair done, nails done or whatever else. My time is precious, my hubby works 7 days a week, there just is not the time like I used to have, and it doesn't worry me at all. Sometimes I make an effort, most times I cbf, and I don't care or judge others on this either, everyone is different.
pink ribbon (13-10-2013)
I'm another. My kids always come first and I tend to put their needs and wants before my own.
I actually much prefer spending time finding and dressing the kids in nice clothes.
I've stacked on 30kgs since having DS2 so buying and dressing myself is a rather depresssing experience so I much prefer to chuck on a pair of jeans and a shirt and be done with it.
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