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    Yes, I agree with you. And it is fine if your me time is doing your hair, makeup and clothes. But to say that mothers who aren't doing their makeup are not putting themselves is still shallow.

    And I wear makeup almost every day! I figure, at least it is blocking out the UV rays with all the sunscreen that is in it. Although it isn't the be all and end all. I go out without it and don't feel sloppy or lesser than someone else.


    Quote Originally Posted by redlipsandpearls View Post
    For me, doing my hair and makeup is my 'me time'... for other people that may be having a bubble bath, going to the gym or sneaking in a chapter of a book. You can't look at a random mum and be able to judge by her appearance that she doesn't do anything for herself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    Yes, I agree with you. And it is fine if your me time is doing your hair, makeup and clothes. But to say that mothers who aren't doing their makeup are not putting themselves is still shallow.

    And I wear makeup almost every day! I figure, at least it is blocking out the UV rays with all the sunscreen that is in it. Although it isn't the be all and end all. I go out without it and don't feel sloppy or lesser than someone else.
    Oh definitely, I was agreeing with you that the OP was shallow in her conclusion that not having your hair and makeup done means you take no time for yourself. As I said, different people do different things for their 'me time' and many of them wouldn't be visible to a stranger that walks past them in the street.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boobycino View Post

    If I was to worry about my hair and clothes - for me - it wouldn't be putting effort into my own life or into myself, it would be putting effort towards pleasing others and my whole life revolves around making other people happy (mainly two small people) and I just can't be bothered ensuring other people get to see my brushed hair and neatly put together outfit.
    That's a very good point. People tend to express "concern" that mum "doesn't have time for herself". I.e. *I* don't appreciate the way she looks. She should look 'better' to make ME happy. All wrapped up in a neat little package disguised as caring about someone's wellbeing.

    I think I forgt to brush my hair this morning. I don't have work today and am playing grand theft auto. Plenty of time for myself, I just don't particularly care what others think of my hair *shrug*

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    Quote Originally Posted by TeBe View Post
    I have noticed a trend in mums who appear to put a lot of time into being great mums but no time into their own lives. By that I mean, they appear to play with their kids, take them to activities, provide healthy food and dress their kids in lovely outfits that look clean and ironed, yet they don't appear to put nearly near as much effort into their own lives. Whilst being great mums to their kids, they appear to eat unhealthy food, do little exercise and wear ill fitting, daggy clothes and have unwashed and untidy hair.

    I don't think lack of time is the only answer, because it only takes 2 minutes to tie hair in a neat pony tail, and further, it takes the same amount of time to put on daggy Ill fitting clothes, as it does to put on an inexpensive, but neat and tidy outfit.

    Why do some mums put so much effort into their kids and zero into themselves?
    umm i am one of "these mums". What are you going to do about it? mind your business? There will come a time i can put 'time' back into myself when my kids become a little more independant. Right now i am being a mum to two very young kids. I love that "these mums" are putting their kids first. What mum doesnt?!
    i dont get my hair done, massages, go out and buy new clothes or leave my kids while i go out somewhere. if they cant go, i dont go. oh and i eat their leftovers! haha

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lakey View Post
    umm i am one of "these mums". What are you going to do about it?
    That was mean

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    There have been threads about judging other mothers' attire and the responses have been extremely different, so I am a bit confuzzled at the responses here. A lot of people admitted similar feelings about mothers who don't "take care of" their appearance. How people know what they eat I don't know.

    one of the children's mums at my son's primary school walks to school in her pyjamas. Every. Single. Day. I am talking full flanelette pyjamas, with sneakers, and if cold a scarf lol. I have seen her ONCE dressed in daywear. She was dressed to the nines - black cocktail dress, heels, stockings, dangly pearl earrings, hair professional looking, full make up. So bizarre! She's awesome!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Benji View Post
    There have been threads about judging other mothers' attire and the responses have been extremely different, so I am a bit confuzzled at the responses here. A lot of people admitted similar feelings about mothers who don't "take care of" their appearance. How people know what they eat I don't know.

    one of the children's mums at my son's primary school walks to school in her pyjamas. Every. Single. Day. I am talking full flanelette pyjamas, with sneakers, and if cold a scarf lol. I have seen her ONCE dressed in daywear. She was dressed to the nines - black cocktail dress, heels, stockings, dangly pearl earrings, hair professional looking, full make up. So bizarre! She's awesome!

    I gotta admit, if that was my every day attire I would so spend as long as possible in my jamas too.

    But that's mainly because I find stockings to be ridiculous uncomfortable attire.

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    I think people are taking this a little more personally then it needs to be taken - for all we know it was just poorly communicated and the op isnt having a 'go' at anyone...

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    Quote Originally Posted by TimeForWine View Post
    I think people are taking this a little more personally then it needs to be taken - for all we know it was just poorly communicated and the op isnt having a 'go' at anyone...
    I see this a lot on the hub lately- oh, maybe the OP didn't mean what she said, maybe she meant something else entirely- you know what? No. That is not the case here. The OP was extremely clear and articulate in her post. Mums do not take enough time to look neat and tidy and she doesn't understand it. She infers that being daggy or untidy is a choice. I think enough people have calmly explained their personal scenarios so that the OP can get an understanding of why some mums do not place the same level of importance on looks that she clearly does.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atropos View Post
    I see this a lot on the hub lately- oh, maybe the OP didn't mean what she said, maybe she meant something else entirely- you know what? No. That is not the case here. The OP was extremely clear and articulate in her post. Mums do not take enough time to look neat and tidy and she doesn't understand it. She infers that being daggy or untidy is a choice. I think enough people have calmly explained their personal scenarios so that the OP can get an understanding of why some mums do not place the same level of importance on looks that she clearly does.
    And it's not as if the OP has bothered trying to rephrase her post

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