Yes, I agree with you. And it is fine if your me time is doing your hair, makeup and clothes. But to say that mothers who aren't doing their makeup are not putting themselves is still shallow.
And I wear makeup almost every day! I figure, at least it is blocking out the UV rays with all the sunscreen that is in it. Although it isn't the be all and end all. I go out without it and don't feel sloppy or lesser than someone else.