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    Default I have a query

    I have noticed a trend in mums who appear to put a lot of time into being great mums but no time into their own lives. By that I mean, they appear to play with their kids, take them to activities, provide healthy food and dress their kids in lovely outfits that look clean and ironed, yet they don't appear to put nearly near as much effort into their own lives. Whilst being great mums to their kids, they appear to eat unhealthy food, do little exercise and wear ill fitting, daggy clothes and have unwashed and untidy hair.

    I don't think lack of time is the only answer, because it only takes 2 minutes to tie hair in a neat pony tail, and further, it takes the same amount of time to put on daggy Ill fitting clothes, as it does to put on an inexpensive, but neat and tidy outfit.

    Why do some mums put so much effort into their kids and zero into themselves?

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    Um lol at "neat and tidy outfit"

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    Why should it matter to you?

    i could be seen as one of those mums. I wear daggy clothes because I am losing weight and don't see the point in spending money on clothes I will wear for a short time.

    I tie my hair back, DS3 pulls it out so I don't bother anymore.

    I am busy so often don't eat full meals - I snack during the day and OMG sometimes I eat junk.

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    I would much rather see that, then some women I know who have the $200 hairdo, a brand new outfit every weekend, while their kids have clothes that are too small and they are borrowing money just to buy pantry essentials.

    I readily admit judging those sort of parents way more than the mum that does a great job but who is wearing a daggy tracksuit.

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    This is so me, LOL. I can't remember the last time I bought myself something nice or did something for me.

    My life revolves around my son now.. So I guess he comes first for me.

    My partner is always telling me to go and get my hair done, go and get a manicure and pedicure... And he always offers to pay for me to go and do it everytime we are at the shops.. But I always worry my son will need a feed half way through so I always say no. Lol.

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    Doing all those things for your child/ren is hard work! There's a good chance those mums looked "neat and tidy" first thing in the morning but after breakfast, clean-up, a morning craft activity... Well it ain't so neat and tidy anymore!

    My DD likes to participate in pretty much eeeeeeverything I do, so that often results in poorly done hair (I have curly hair, I dream of only needing 2mins to tie it up neatly), wearing whatever is quick to grab, and breakfast smeared all over me.

    If they're great mums who cares what they look like! Maybe they nurture themselves through intellectual pursuits, hobbies, or long baths at bedtime rather than manicures and makeup.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mum2twinboys View Post
    Why should it matter to you?
    This...

    Sent from my pho....oh who am I kidding. It's rarely used as a phone

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    I do my hair and ds pulls it out five mins later. I'm doing pretty well if I've had the time to wash it! I wear baggy clothes because they are more comfortable for getting down on the floor to play with my son. If they are too tight then my butt crack hangs out.

    Having said that i do wish mums could sort out some time to exercise each day and eat well. So important for mental and physical well being.

    I couldn't give a rats **** what people wear. It's more important to be happy and healthy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cue View Post
    Doing all those things for your child/ren is hard work! There's a good chance those mums looked "neat and tidy" first thing in the morning but after breakfast, clean-up, a morning craft activity... Well it ain't so neat and tidy anymore!

    My DD likes to participate in pretty much eeeeeeverything I do, so that often results in poorly done hair (I have curly hair, I dream of only needing 2mins to tie it up neatly), wearing whatever is quick to grab, and breakfast smeared all over me.

    If they're great mums who cares what they look like! Maybe they nurture themselves through intellectual pursuits, hobbies, or long baths at bedtime rather than manicures and makeup.
    Yep this, I'd rather read a book or do something intellectual like go on BH than paint my fingernails :-)

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    I have a few answers
    1) I am in the process of losing a lot of weight and would rather wear ill fitting clothes then buying a new wardrobe every month
    2) I am more comfortable in a pair of 3/4 track suits pant or yoga pants and need to be in clothes and shoes I can move quickly in so DS2 doesn't destroy everything before I can stop him.
    3) I would rather keep the money I would spend on all that in the bank for a rainy day.
    4) I would rather surround myself by people who accept me for my friendship and personality rather then judge me on my appearance

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