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    Quote Originally Posted by Louise41 View Post
    my ex and i have a private agreement where he pays all school related costs , medical insurance and flights for the kids to see him..
    we do this because he refused to pay the CSA amount as it was very high and i agreed to it so at least he was paying something..
    we have had this since 2001 and CSA and Centrelink were happy... all we had to do was get an exemption so that I get the correct amount of FTB and we have had no issues...
    Speak to a social worker at Centrelink if you can as they will help you with any issues...

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    Hi i louise41 thanks for your input...... Isn't that to get an exemption it has to have a valid reason? Mind if I ask how you go about yours and is your agreement made through solicitor? And are the related costs stated and itemized in your agreement? Sorry for all the questions.

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    I would check what amount child support calculates he should be paying & then assess the situation. Regardless of whether you go with the csa calculation or you agree on a figure I would have child support collect it so you don't need solicitors. This will also help to get him to actually pay & you won't need to chase him up. Don't undercut yourself or your child because unexpected costs come up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fleetwood View Post
    It's not 'high' if it's the calculated amount.... It's based on both incomes. In more cases than not the custodial parent spends far more on the child than the non-custodial parent pays in c/support, and is the one doing all the yard work raising them.
    Unfortunately this isn't always the case. My DF and I have his LO for 2 full weeks out of every 4. We pay a high amount even though we have her pretty much 50/50 except by 1 night. And we still have to pay his ex when we have her and get no payment when we have her and we have everything here for her for when she comes. Go figure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bodynsoul View Post
    Hi i louise41 thanks for your input...... Isn't that to get an exemption it has to have a valid reason? Mind if I ask how you go about yours and is your agreement made through solicitor? And are the related costs stated and itemized in your agreement? Sorry for all the questions.
    yes we went through a solicitor and its listed exactly what hes paying for, item by item , even quantity..

    CSA and CL were happy but bare in mind we are talking 12 years ago so it may have changed

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    Can you tell him, that it is not going to be so much forever. As no doubt your circumstances will change, where you might earn an income or have a new partner, which will reduce his payments to you. That is also what you need to keep in mind if you are doing anything up legally. You will also need to review it in a year or 2's time as the child is so young and so dependant on you. And do you want to go through this again in a few years when it needs to be reviewed and drag it up ?.

    I know it can be hard, but in my personal opinion, do what you are happy with not everyone else. But flip side to that is you won't be able to blame anyone but yourself LOL.

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    Do what's right for you.

    The good thing about going through CSA is you don't need to have contact with him if you don't want to.

    I'm comfortable living on my own income without CS so I have that money put into DS's savings account

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    I have not read everyone else's post - sorry if I'm repeating. I would do it through the agency. It's easier, they keep records and if there is an issue they can deal with it

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    Quote Originally Posted by Louise41 View Post
    we have had this since 2001 and CSA and Centrelink were happy... all we had to do was get an exemption so that I get the correct amount of FTB and we have had no issues...
    bodynsoul, you won't get an exemption without domestic violence issues or similar. Child support takes into account a parents capacity to pay. It considers things like their other children and their own living costs etc. You state that he has a mortgage to pay - should he be paying the mortgage at the expense of supporting his child? You state he is a single dad - they will take into account that he is caring for another child. The amount that he has been assessed to pay factors in a lot of your concerns.

    The one thing you mention, about him having contact with his child - what happens if you sign an agreement for a lesser amount and he still does not acknowledge the child? You lose out on both accounts.

    If you decide to go ahead with your plans of an agreement, be aware that Centrelink will reduce your FTB in an amount equal to what you should be receiving from him, regardless of whether you agree to it or not. Not even a judge can legally order him to pay less child support - it is federal legislation. Also, I would make sure that you include an end date in your agreement so that it does not stay in place until your child is 18. As pp's have mentioned, circumstances change (un/employment, number of children, income, cost of living, child's stage in life, schooling, medical conditions, accommodation, etc).

    I wish you well in whatever you decide, but please make sure you consider this very carefully before you make a final decision. Oh, and final hint - make sure you see a solicitor who specialises in Family Law, and not a general solicitor. They will be more familiar with the ins and outs of what is actually legal - just because he signs an agreement, it does not mean he legally has to do it.

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    If assessed CS is "high" it's because the paying parent's income is. Even with a 50/50 care arrangement payments can still be made, it's about making sure the child benefits from what both parents are earning for the best quality of life possible...and considers other dependents (from other relationships)as well...doesn't seem unfair to me?

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    Thank you everyone for your advises/input it's greatly appreciated, it has given me ideas and things to consider and watch out for


 

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