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    I would hire them and just not say anything unless it came up. So long as he has no issue about the security/privacy side of things and was just 'no i don't want one cos i don't understand' then bugger it .. hire a cleaner

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    I couldn't afford a cleaner myself, however if we were in the position to hire one and could comfortably afford it I would simply tell my hubby it was something I wanted and was going to get. If he didn't like it I would happily hand over the housework tasks to him and let him see how he went for a week or two.

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    as soon as I start work...i am getting a cleaner once a fortnight!

    I cannot wait. Not sure if DH will be happy or not...don't care!

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    I agree with the others who suggest to get the cleaner and tell DH that you have done so.

    However, since he is really adamant against it, I would suggest giving him a chance to step up first. Tell him that either he keeps the house clean to your standards, or you will be hiring the cleaner - and give him time (a week if you can handle that long) to prove he can do so. I expect this wont happen, so you should then be able to get your cleaner guilt-free.

    And doing it for the one week isn't enough. If he does it for one week, but slacks off the following week - well then that's your cue to hire the cleaner at that point.
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    Thanks all. You are qll giving me hope! I think I will just say this is what I'm doing. We'll fight but I hate the idea of not telling him. ee just don't have that type of relationship. We are trying a cleaning roster of sorts that is a bit more equal but I don't think it will work with DH. These things just don't work for him . When that fails I can bring it up then.

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    It's funny (not really) how husbands "help" with the house chores.
    When did it become the wives responsibility?

    I'm not helping DH with cleaning nor is he. We both work at it, 50/50. Shared house. share chores responsibilities.

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    Ive hired a cleaner through an agency so they have public liability insurance and it makes me feel better about having someone in my home when im at work. She came today and its seriously the best thing. Im not stressed, the house is clean, tidy

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    We got a cleaner a few years ago and haven't looked back.

    Does your DH think that a cleaner is just a bit of an unnecessary luxury? Could you ask DH if you could have it as a birthday or xmas present? Then you wouldn't have to have a conversation about why your workload is too much, or why he is not a competent cleaner. It would just look like he was doing something nice for you and he might respond better to that?


 

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