First let me state clearly that this is NOT the type of relationship we have. We are totally open and honest about everything and I am not sure if I could even go through with it but...I can't keep on top of it all!
Background - DD-5, DS - 3 and Ds-6m. I am really struggling to keep the house clean - tidy is not too bad but the big cleaning jobs just don't get done. I am not the best housewife but not cause I am lazy - I never stop - but there is just so much to do and so much picking up and dropping off to do, plus the baby who wants his cuddles naturally.
Anyway - DH is completely opposed to a cleaner. I have raised it before and he is vehemently against it and we always end up fighting but he just can not see the things I see and it does not bother his if the bathroom has not been cleaned for a month.
He also loves to say .." my mum and my sister managed' ( yes and they never did/do a single extracurricular activity with their kids).
So - I am looking at going to back to work end of Dec and I seriously scared as to how the house will be if I am working again ( 3 days a week). I just can't do it. DH helps but not as much as he thinks he does and as I said - some things just don't bother him. Eg - if the floors need doing and feel dirty underfoot - he'll start wearing his shoes inside rather then think ' you know what C is having a hard time getting to this - I might do it for her'.
Anyway - I have contact with a cleaner $20 an hour ( so bugger all) and I am so tempted to just get her in for the big things once a fortnight and not tell him but I would feel so guilty. Should I feel guilty with a clean house or miserable living in a dirty house??? What would you do? Should I just keep arguing with him? Opinions?