Havent read all the posts.
So far my dd is just a baby and i make a lot of her clothes, id love love love if she let me continue doing this even in her tweens but when the time comes its considered 'embarrassing' to wear home made clothes i will let her find her own style that she is comfortable with. I will have some say over things like bum cheeks hanging out of shorts and stuff like that.
Imo its far more important to teach my sons that a womans outfit isnt an open invitation than teaching my daughter to dress for safety.
Mumma to two beautiful boys on the spectrum and one special little girl.
*Coming back into this thread not reading any replies from last one
On our way to beach today I had to buy dd2 (12yrs old but fits a ladies 12, she is very tall for her age).
I was in a huge hurry because we were meeting someone and I had to buy dd some shorts on the way.She has had a massive growth spurt and none of her old shorts fit. We stopped at Kmart. We found ONE pair that were of a suitable length that she kinda liked. Most of them were way too short.
So off the beach she went in denim shorts because they were the only one with long legs.
I just think that girls should be encouraged to choose what they like and what they feel suits them. My eldest daughter is beautiful- and I say that objectively, yeah? and the KR walks to the beat of her own drum, always has. She's 10 and I've only ever vetoed outfits that clashed ridiculously or weren't suited to where we were going (think knee high boots to beach walks, track suit pants under fitted dresses etc) and in doing so I've started to help her see what looks good on her and she's developing her own individual style. She has short shorts and skimpy tops and she looks gorgeous. She already understands that what's in fashion isn't for everyone.
I also put my hand up and admit I was a scantly dressed teenager, lost my V at 14 (beautiful story, no regrets), smoked, drank, had a belly piercing . But I also had a strong sense of self worth and see this time as an experimentation phase that I did eventually grow out of (though I probably still dress quite scantily for a 34 yr old mum of 2 but Im proud of my athletic build).
I still went to uni, had a career and didnt settle down and have children until I was 30.
To me when I hear people Judging women on what they wear it really only reflects badly on them.
Honestly, I hope my daughter feels comfortable enough in her own skin to wear what she wants, without having to bend to peer pressure.
Surely though, it won't be as bad as the pants around the butt trend that my DS1 insisted on wearing. Now that's a fashion trend that I cannot tolerate!
My daughter is 8. She's fine to wear short-shorts if she's doing it because they're comfy and it's hot.
She's not fine to wear them if she thinks it's important to make sure that the general public catch a glimpse of her inner thighs on an outing to the shops.
Same shorts, different reasons for wearing them.
Of course, I'd not ever let her stroll around town in a pair of shorts that revealed her buttcheeks regardless of intention. Some things just aren't appropriate to wear in public, especially when you're still a child.
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