Also, we are we assuming that there is a correlation between how girls dress and their sexual activity? Is this a definite correlation? The only girl I knew at school that got pregnant was the girl from the strict Christian family who was always well behaved, never went out to nightclubs or parties etc. (Admittedly there may have been others who had terminations.)
I guess i need to try to remember what it was like when i was a teenager. How hard it actually is!
I guess all i can hope is my daughters respect themselves and are confident in their views and beliefs and dont just do things because its 'cool'. And as much as it even pains me to say it, I hope when my daughters have sex (argghhh) they do it safely - both emotionally and physically and it is with someone who treats them with respect and they actually love one another.
I didnt lose my virginity till quite old - and for some reason this really ****ed my mum off ! haha
[QUOTE=Meg2;7462177]I don't think this thread is s.lut shaming. I think people are worried about the social pressures that are places on young girls to look sexy all the time. Our society sends a clear message through dolls, music videos, celebrities, advertising and fashion that the value of girls and women lies in how f@ckable they are. This is what I think people are lamenting in this
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I agree there should be no pressure for any girl especially fashion you see in tv music everything the less you wear the sexyier I dont believe that is true at all! I want my daughter to know even if she wears jeans with a baggy shirt shes still beautiful and that she does not have to dress inappropriately to get any attention! !....
I was looking at photos of my mum not long ago, who was a tween/teen of the 70s. She wore tiny shorts, crocheted bikinis, mid riff tops. She worked in a bank from 15 and said she wore platforms and a mini skirt that was so short she couldn't bend over.
So it is interesting to me....it seems the length of the hem hasn't changed, more the way the girls who wear them are viewed?
I think it's not the clothing on its own so much... often how/why it's worn.
Are you wearing your tiny shorts because it's hot, and they're comfortable? Or are you wearing them because you're showing off and you think it makes you a cooler person to have your bum on display? You can make the most elegant outfit trashy if you teamed it with a trashy attitude.
My DP keeps saying he is going to lock DD up till she is 30 and scare away all her boyfriends and I am assuming he is joking cause otherwise we will have issues. I do hate the messages about body image that society sends to young girls and I hate the messages young boys get in relation to the treatment of girls/women. Sex has been a main selling point for decades and it only seems to be getting worse. My aim will be to teach DD how to respect herself and make smart choices so that she can live with no regrets. Cant do that by shutting her away from the world and scaring away what could be very decent guys.
The vilification of each upcoming generation does frustrate me. They don't need it.
A parent buying bras for an 8 yr old is just as bad as one shaming a 14 yr old and calling her a sl@t. It's all about the pressure to fit in and be sexually attractive and IMO that's just wrong.
My point was that girls, need to be taught to look at things with a critical eye, to look at why they want to do the things or wear what they wear,. Why women are judged so harshly etc it's a lose lose situation. We need to stand up as women and stop shaming and judging and we all need to take a collective responsibility for the well being of others and say NO collectively to what is being sold via mass media, that tells girls and women they aren't good enough.
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