my relationship with my bf has been deteriorating ever since we had our child who is now 15 months. Today he said he wanted to break up and I am quite devastated about it.
He feels like I put my child and work first and my relationship last. Let me explain our situation for you to understand. I commute 1 hr to work and back, by the time I we get home its 6:30pm - I have to give my baby dinner, prepare things for childcare the next day, give my baby a bath, have some play time with her and by 8:30pm try to put her to bed. So from the minute I get home I am running around trying to get everything done before her bedtime. Every now and then he will give her a bath but I have to dry and put her pj's on.
She sleeps in our room, we currently live with my mother in law and only have 1 room for the three of us. This of course has killed our sex life or any type of intimacy.
My boyfriend and I each prepare our own dinners, I am trying to lose weight so what we eat is different and since i am running around with baby I fit in dinner whenever I can, while he has his dinner later at night.
By 9:30pm I fall asleep, dead tired. He stays up until about 10:30 or 11 on the computer, so we don't even spend a bit of time together after bub is asleep either.
We cant do the things we used to because bub is in the room asleep and we cant have time together in the living room or any other area because my mother and father in law are there so its not like we are having some time "just for us".
We want to move out next year, for the time being we are saving money to get out of debt and move out soon.
so.. I don't know what to do to make him feel loved or cared for, I am so busy I feel like its impossible to fit in time for us or to focus on him.
He told me he didnt even feel physically attracted to me anymore, the lack of sex and my body being so different has killed that for him. I gained 40 kilos while pregnant. I've lost 30 kilos but my body is different, I cant fit in exercise during the week either.. so what am I supposed to do?!
any advice appreciated