We've decided to not text back right now. We don't want to even feel pressured to respond on their timeline. We are really wary of being too cooperative, those of you with family like this will know that even a response can be taken as an admission of us being in the wrong/them thinking they can controll and dictate everything. Yes it is that screwed up!
Dh has called his psychologist and asked to move his session up to chat to him about how this has made him feel and see what he suggests. Crossing my fingers he returns dh's call soon and can fit him in asap so we can stop stressing about it.
It sounds really harsh, but our instinct at the moment is to just 100% ignore them, until we are ready to deal with them. If at all. All you PP's who have said that it will never change are so so right. We have tried everything, we have been firm on our boundaries, we have explained to them the issues and told them what we are able to cope with on our terms. They won't accept anything except 100% control and 100% access whenever they want. Don't think it matters how much breath we waste explaining or discussing. They won't accept it and this will just keep on happening. Only scary thing about no response is them turning up/sending people here hysterical. Dh says he doesn't care. If they try he'll tell them to f*** off! Doesn't help when he is at work and I'm here alone. I just might not answer the door!
Thanks for the hugs everyone. I return them 10 fold to anyone who has been in this sort of situation. It is the worst.
I'll keep you all posted!
Me 27 + Him 28 =
#2 due 28.1.2014
6 angels loved and missed.