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    I have been following your story and cant't believe this horrible situation you are in.

    As far as the hospital visits go, I agree with having a no visitors at all rule at the hospital. Then to ensure your family don't miss out, have them call or text DH when they arrive and he can meet them in the carpark and escort them in.

    Good luck! I hope all goes smoothly for you and the birth and days following are as special as they should be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by trustno1 View Post
    Could you ask the midwives I'd you can have a "in quarantine" sign put on your room door in the hospital, so that even if they barge on in, they won't be likely look in your room?
    Thats a great idea!!!!

    Hun def dont send an email, they will for sure start everything again which is the last thing you need in your final weeks.

    I wouldnt tell anyone except your parents and maybe very few friends that you can trust 100000% to not tell anyone while you are in hospital. They could quietly visit if you are in for a few days.
    Then tell other people when you have been home for a few days.

    We didnt tell anyone for 5hrs after csection that DD was here as we wanted time just the three of us - similar to you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 2giraffes View Post
    As far as the hospital visits go, I agree with having a no visitors at all rule at the hospital. Then to ensure your family don't miss out, have them call or text DH when they arrive and he can meet them in the carpark and escort them in.
    I was going to suggest this, too. I think it's the easiest option and it means that your family can still visit. That in tandem with the suggestion of a quarantine sign on the door for any nosey parkers.

    Are you sure they don't know who you are on here? I'd delete your due date just to be safe. Tell no one but your parents, friends (even close ones) can wait till you're home especially if it's only a couple of hours. I wouldn't update this thread until you're telling everyone else as well. Good luck with the birth!

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    @trustno1 - that is a great idea. I'll ask the midwives!!

    Quote Originally Posted by Natskyn View Post
    Are you going to a hospital where you would have your own room? I can't remember if they do but would the room have a lock on the inside? That would ensure you only get visitors by prior arrangement
    Yep I'm public but get my own room because my job poses some safety risks to be randomly chucked in with a client or a member of a clients family. So the midwives are already aware of that aspect. I'm not sure if the doors lock- I'll ask! Wondering if the midwives need to get in quickly though??? I'll ask anyway.
    @Goblin Queen - I'm certain none are on here They have no reason to be, and I don't tell anyone I am so they wouldn't have thought to stalk me. This is confirmed by the fact that if they were on here, and figured out who I am, they would have crucified me with stuff I've said so far!! But- totally deleting my signature right now!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chippa View Post
    @rach85 I can see why you are feeling stressed. I totally agree with PP's about total silence. I'm so sad for your DH that his family is ruining what should be an amazing time for your little family unit.

    I truly hope you get your vbac and his family stays away (get a hint people!!!).

    Oh and don't forget to let us know when bub is here safely. We are all cheering you on and we won't tell the outlaws
    Thankyou- and me too! Come on vbac!!!

    I'll definitely let you guys know x

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    Quote Originally Posted by 2giraffes View Post
    I have been following your story and cant't believe this horrible situation you are in.

    As far as the hospital visits go, I agree with having a no visitors at all rule at the hospital. Then to ensure your family don't miss out, have them call or text DH when they arrive and he can meet them in the carpark and escort them in.

    Good luck! I hope all goes smoothly for you and the birth and days following are as special as they should be.
    Thanks so much

    If we do that though, will midwives enter the room while we are happily visiting and try kick them out because we said no visitors at all?? I'll ask them this week, maybe we can ask if I can use the call button to alert them to the unwanted visitors? Probably abusing the system a bit though :-/

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    Quote Originally Posted by dancingbutterfly View Post

    Hun def dont send an email, they will for sure start everything again which is the last thing you need in your final weeks.

    I wouldnt tell anyone except your parents and maybe very few friends that you can trust 100000% to not tell anyone while you are in hospital. They could quietly visit if you are in for a few days.
    Then tell other people when you have been home for a few days.
    Yeah- no emails! So glad I float things here sometimes!! I am hoping so much for a vbac with no complications so I can maybe even consider checking out of the hospital before we tell anyone anything! Drive the new baby to dd for her to meet and only after that consider announcing anything.

    Thanks everyone for your amazing suggestions- have a list of things to plan out with the midwives now

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    They would definitely remove unwanted visitors. The midwives told me on many occasions that if I was tired or getting overwhelmed by too many visitors just to make them aware and they will be the 'bad guys' and make the visitors leave.

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    I'm sure they would- but I'd worry they'd try make my family leave when they were visiting too

    It just gives me more motivation to get my vbac and bail asap so we don't have to deal with any of this at all!

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Not long now! Don't make any decisions on who/when you tell you've had the baby... Until you've had the baby and know what type of recovery you will be up for. If you have a smooth labor and will likely be out in 24 hours then yeah sure tell your close family and friends right away. If you have a long labor and may be in hospital for 3-4 days perhaps wait until day 2-3 to tell people.

    As for rules about who's allowed to visit when. I have one blanket rule for everyone: no overnight guests 4 weeks before or 4 weeks after bub. However if I had nutbag relatives like your inlaws I wouldn't hesitate to have a separate rule for them: no visits or no visiting for 3 months or whatever. I think with what you've been through you can have a separate set of rules for them. If they question it tell them to f@rk off.

    I wouldn't send an email. I wouldn't engage them at all. If your DH happens to speak with them about something else have him verbally tell them what your boundaries are.
    100% this. Hugs for you!


 

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