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    I think @lilypily is right. I need to stop caring in this battle that can't be won. As hard as it is, dh and I need to get right with how we feel about it, get stonger in that iykwim? His psych told him the other day to not confuse his sadness with guilt- we have nothing to feel guilty about. I need to take that on board too. His parents have done this, and anyone else who wants to join in on that is complicit. I guess this is the downside of an upbringing teaching me the value of family and to honour them!! This is going to be so hard for us.

    I have to admit the longer it goes on the more the silence from them makes me sooo nervous. I think it is silly of me to think they actually got the point this time. I honestly don't think they are capable of ever getting the point, so I wonder what they are formulating....

    Is it bad I hope that they aren't thinking they better have a relationship with me so that they are allowed back into out lives? I can't think of anything more creepy and awkward. I am a horrible person!!!!


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    There are support groups for narcissist relationships. I also recommend read up on this personality disorder as knowledge is your power in this situation. Good luck Hun.


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    Ok so dh's cousin cancelled. I'm pretty suss on it now- like we put a stop to any ambush so they called the whole thing off....


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    I think you are right.


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    That is a good thing then

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    My inlaws


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    So the cousin has resummoned us to brunch tomorrow. Dh and I just had a massive fight over what can/can't be said to her when she asks what is going on. DH has convieniently forgotten alot of sh1t in the letters and accused me of exaggerating. I told him to go read to freaking letters!! It has become so clear why this cycle continues. Not only do they get him with guilt and manipulation, somehow, when he gets a bit of a break from them he almost idealises and explains away what has happened. And definitely forgets thiggs said and done. Driving me bl0ody crazy.


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    Quote Originally Posted by rach85 View Post
    So the cousin has resummoned us to brunch tomorrow. Dh and I just had a massive fight over what can/can't be said to her when she asks what is going on. DH has convieniently forgotten alot of sh1t in the letters and accused me of exaggerating. I told him to go read to freaking letters!! It has become so clear why this cycle continues. Not only do they get him with guilt and manipulation, somehow, when he gets a bit of a break from them he almost idealises and explains away what has happened. And definitely forgets thiggs said and done. Driving me bl0ody crazy.


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    Don't go. Send your DH but I wouldn't go to anyone who summoned me. You already know what's going to happen!

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    **** situation... Big hugs


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    Quote Originally Posted by Cicho View Post
    Don't go. Send your DH but I wouldn't go to anyone who summoned me. You already know what's going to happen!

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    I'd handle it differently actually.

    Either both go, or neither.

    What you've written above is the story of my life. My dh forgets/blocks it out and then I'm the bad guy again.

    I find when dh goes alone, everyone is happy and friendly, thereby automatically making everyone think that I'm the one who has issues and that is 'poisoning him mind'.

    Either go, or put your foot down and tell him no way that he can go.

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