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    Default A bit worried about son not making many friends.

    My ds is in 4 yo kindergarten. It's his first time away in care away from home. He has made a couple of good friends there but isn't really that interested in the other 20 kids in his class.
    I worry a bit that he's so selective, that he'll end up being a bit of a loner. I wonder if he will continue this way in school, or do things tend to change socially as they get older?
    how did your kids go socially in kinder and school?

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    That sounds like most children. I have not come across many that are good friends with every child in the class. Even though it may change year to year, depending on who is in their class, they usually only have a couple of kids that they spend most of their time with.

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    Thanks for taking the time to reply. It seems to me like the other kids at my son's kinder are all social butterflies, from what their parents have told me. I'm glad to hear its very normal. Thanks again.

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    Very normal at age 4 it's hard not to be concerned as a parent, however I worked with 4 year olds and some of them form form friendships but others don't.
    You could try asking parents for play dates. Good luck.

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    Quite normal at this age. Sure there are some who are able to form friendships already, but they are often the more confident children as well who aren't afraid of approaching others in the first place. Most will play together, or near each other and sidle up until they somehow managed to join in...
    By 6 you should notice more defined "friend" groups (unfortunately this is also when the - "You're not my friend!" starts too, then the next day they are again).

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    I get worried about this too OP.

    My boy has been in preschool /kinder all year but doesn't have any 'friends.

    He is 3.5 but most of the kids are now turning 5 or even 5.5 so he misses out.

    Apparently it's normal and even moreso for boys.

    Hope he starts to make some friends soon

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