Please don't interpret my post as putting down those with mental illnesses or experiencing difficulties. It's not what I was getting at. I don't doubt the mother had an extremely hard time. I just misinterpreted the OP and felt that both had roles they played that led to the death of those poor babies.
I make no assumptions in how mental illnesses effect people. At all.
Sleepy mumma who has had alot on her plate read things wrong and opened her big trap. Didnt mean to offend anyone.
I just wonder where was the extended family for these poor children.??Was there no grandparents, or any family from either the mothers or the fathers side that could have surely helped. Just so sad, so very sad. And there must be someone now taking care of the surviving children?? I hope there is support available if needed. Marie
So awful RIP babies
I really hope people learn from this - the mother in this situation did cry out for help, more than once according to reports. Her husband called her lazy and dismissed and ignored everything that was happening. I've certainly taken it on board that when a mother says she isn't coping, ignoring it and hoping it will get better can have disastrous consequences
My opinion - I think many people are to 'blame'. My reasoning is...
Father - mother indicated she wasn't coping. She tried to reach out to him. He ignored her and his own children. Until his children died. Prob has an alcohol addiction but that doesn't make him blameless.
Extended family - it must have also been clear to them the mother wasn't coping and was seriously ill. Where were they in this?
Health/welfare officials - I am guessing the mother didn't take the children to any MCHN appointments etc. Did anyone check up on the family?
Mother - I list her last as I think she must have been very ill. However, she could have taken more steps to seek help before things got so terrible.
All up its just sad. So many people failed these children. No amount of 'punishment' on earth will make up for that.
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