Thanks for that Stacey
Thanks for that Stacey
I met a lady last night at the accomodation that I am staying in that has been here 4 times now. She had transfer Saturday, goes home Thursday. So hope it works for her this time. She has NK Cells too, and is now under Gavin Sacks. It was amazing talking to her about the process etc, donors and so on. She saw both her donors in the clinic waiting room for past retrievals, as they were the only ones in there and it was obvious it was them, as they looked like their baby photos! I'm not sure how I would cope with that at this stage, she said she was over whelmed with emotion and wanted to give them both a big hug, but of course didn't.
Tax Refunds - not sure if you ladies are aware of this, as one of our fab ladies on the SA thread mentioned it to us quite awhile ago, that you can claim your treatment costs and flights back next year..... (by the way, my Accountant told me the 20% is been reduced as well next financial year ).
I was wondering though, does anyone know if you can claim the accomodation and transport as well? ...she claimed for her trips last year (and didn't know about it at first either) and said she got 10k back She claimed the cost of treatment and her airfare, but didn't put in for accommodation/transport and wasn't sure if you could or not?
Thanks Sooty. I was wondering about the Tax Return issue. But how is it that we can claim flights?
Thanks Stacey I will look into travelex.
I'm assuming there is nothing we can claim on private health. Does anyone know?
Hi Keeki.......... I wouldnt have a clue - ha ha ! its' pretty amazing we a can claim at all... I dont think she knew either, so not sure really. But anything back is good. I'm just going to check with my accountant next YEAR ... when I am 8-9 months pregnant and go from there !! xxxxxx
If I'd known about this tax thing I certainly would have tried to claim some. My DH just does E-tax for me. It's great on years when I haven't earnt above the HECS repayment threshold; I end up with a mega return! In hindsight I probably should just pump that into the HECS but that's boring, shopping is much more fun!
How exciting Sooty! I'm not sure how I'd feel if I saw my donor, but I guess that's why I chose anonymous donation. I didn't want to look at my kids and think about how they looked like someone else. It's a bit easier when I don't know what that someone else looks like because now my kids just look like my DH!
We are getting better from our colds, but now DH has it. He's powered on though.
We are still having problems with my Mum . They have gone on a holiday but get back tomorrow. I can't remember if I told you it was her birthday the other week but DH got called to work so we had to leave early. To make up for it we decided to arrive earlier so we'd still see her for the same amount of time. This wasn't good enough for her and she rang my DH leaving multiple voice mails of her crying and blubbering about how we had to stay later. We found out she'd told other people to come to her house in the afternoon so she could parade our children to them! Instead she then told all these other people to come in the morning and her and my Dad, forced, yes they forced everyone to have a photo holding 'the girl one' or 'the boy one'. Not once have they ever taken a family photo of DH and I and our children but they have photos of our kids with every Tom, Richard and Harry! My poor little man was so overwhelmed and scare and started crying. I went to comfort my upset child and my Mum tried several times to push me out of the way and snatch him from me. Then as we put the kids in the car she acts all innocent Nanna like and says 'thank you so much for bringing them over' (don't worry about us!). I told her that we were always coming over and there was absolutely no need to behave in the way she did. Then she starts crying and tell me she's too nervous to even touch my children! Really? Because it sure didn't look like that to me when you yank them from my arms and parade them around! She behaves like a Nana on steroids!
So DH ended up ringing my Dad later that week and said, 'obviously there are some issues that need to be sorted out, we will see and speak to you after your holiday'. So a few days later DH starts getting rude little texts from my Mum insisting that she has to see the babies. Seriously? The icing on the cake was a really nasty text the day they left saying how sad she was to be leaving on her holiday with my DH having stopped her daughter and her grandchildren from seeing her. So she has implied that my DH is some kind of puppet master hiding me in a dungeon and stopping me from seeing anyone!
Seriously?! Does she actually think she's doing herself any favours!? Around anyone else she behaves like some sweet little granny but then she's sending rude texts, blubbering voice mails and mocking us with scoffs and eye rolling! I wish she'd just listen to us! My Dad is no better, mocking me every time I ask him to call my children by their names!
The one saving grace here is that I got my new phone number and that my Mum doesn't have Facebook!
Should we even bother? I mean, can you ever come back from blatantly ignoring someones requests and sending them nasty texts? Do I use my children to blackmail her into getting mental health help?
Oh wow Alice, I would insist she get some sort of help or something. You have to see it from your kids point of view as well. The point here is that no baby should feel frightened especially by any family members. Its the only time in life where they can truly feel safe and secure so don't allow anyone to compromise that for them. I'm not sure what you can do at the moment, its tough with parents. Can you not take a break from them to get things sorted? They seem to not respect any boundries etc. I hope you get it sorted quickly Alice
Sooty, I asked my accountant and she told us only a certain percentage can be claimed. I think it will depend on the accountant as to what can be claimed though. I remember someone else mentioning it on the SA thread awhile back so when I had my taxes done I asked the accountant and she said no its only a percentage.
Alice - OMG.... she sounds off the wall. So so sorry you are dragged into all of that, and possibly no matter what, any amount of reasoning isnt going to change them if they are like that ? Gosh, can you move interstate at all?!..... I'm serious.... maybe the further away the better. Of course you shouldnt have to, but far out... that is crazy crazy behaviour. Your poor babies, and that they call them by numbers - lucky I'm not you, as I'd be packing them up and out of there on the first sign of any nonsense like that. They don't deserve to see them, if they can't be respectful. That is so insulting. Hope I'm not adding fuel to the fire - I really do feel for you.
Tax - yes I think it is a percentage. I've been claiming 20c in the $ every year for expenses over and above the normal Medicare rebate. I also think you can back date for quite a few years if you havent claimed properly, so maybe worth checking that out too. We too have done e-tax the last few years, but this year I wanted to check I had it right and used an Accountant. We got $7,700 back this year - mainly medical, and a rental that was not doing well.. but the bulk of it was medical.
I'd love to take a break from them however when you ask tell them you'll talk to them in 4 or 5 days because you are busy (we often have to create faux events for us to be attending) they don't listen and just keep ringing asking to see the babies, even when you've just told them you have plans then! Sometimes my Mum rings and I remind her that I have something on and she then implies that I should cancel my plans.
Hopefully when we come over in December they will give us a break for a while. I'm excited about December, hopefully we can all catch up for a coffee or something!
Also, I just wanted to add, the twins have transitioned to the cot for daytime naps and are sleeping perfectly! I was so worried they'd fuss or be upset about the new surroundings but it hasn't bothered them!
What is the percentage you can claim back? Or maybe it's better if I don't know, considering I did two trips last year!
I should add that I looked into if my private health would cover anything back in 2012 but it didn't cover assisted reproduction, aside from theatre fees and possibly specialist doctor appointments (? can't remember) , and I could only claim for Australian healthcare providers so no o/s things were covered. I was on the top level hospital and extras.
Also, just to throw it in there, you aren't covered by travel insurance for medical procedures overseas. If something goes wrong as a result of treatment, like you get an infection that requires IV antibiotics and a day in hospital (which I'm pretty sure IS NOT going to happen to anyone!!!) then travel insurance wont pay for this. I wasn't fussed about that because I figured that if anything went wrong then I'd be home by then and covered by Medicare.
How did everyone go figuring out how to get to the clinic with the bizarre road closure?
Yes Sooty! We are moving interstate at the end of next year, which can't come soon enough. It'll be a move for DH's work. I'm really excited. I'd really like a not really 'fresh start' because I haven't done anything I'm ashamed of or wanting to be a different person but in some ways it is a 'fresh start'. A new positive life!
I'd love to not even tell them our new address!
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