Hi all, I'm looking for some advice/ personal experience from others as to what happens with the family mediation through The Family Relationships Center.
After FOB hasn't bothered to see DS (4 years old) for 3 months straight, he has decided to contact Family Relationships Australia for mediation for the both of us to work things out I guess.
I've had issues with FOB on and off over the past few years since we split, and the last time we had an argument I just ended up telling him not to bother seeing DS until he agrees to pay some form of child support. He normally has him every second weekend from fri night till sun avo.
To keep things up to speed, here is a bit of background with what I'm dealing with.
After about a year on a private agreement of child support to be paid he decided not to pay on time so we decided to go through CSA.
We had CSA do as assessment that came up that he owes me approx $200 per month on his current income because they had no record of any tax returns filed in recent years. It then went down to $0 per month after 2 days (second letter) even though he works full time on 40k pa. I thought it was weird but apparently he owes nothing in maintenance because he filed three years worth of tax returns last financial year in which one of them from a couple of years ago he wasn't working for about 3 months.
So instead of going by his last tax return they made an estimation from all three years.
Coming back to three months ago we both agreed to go with having a private agreement again, we both decided that we would go back to him paying the $200 per month, but then the night before I was going pop over to his place for him to sign his agreement the next morning at 12am he sent me an sms telling me he was backing out and though paying $200 per month on 40k pa was too much and he was happy to keep it at $0 until next august.
So yeah he hasn't bothered to see DS or contact me for 3 months & is now wanting to sort things out, what should I expect with my situation I'm in?
I'm wanting to be fair, I want him to see his son, but I also want him to do the right thing morally for his son, the money isn't about me, it's so DS can do swimming lessons and to be able to buy clothes which I really struggle with without that little bit of CS I do need. I guess I'm just over all the manipulating & stress he causes.