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    Okay so its very complicated and I want to vent a little but I need advice. My partner is one of 7 we have two kids (emily 2 and jake 1) and there were no other kids until dp older brother dave's gf (all of 4 month) became pregnant. No one in the family likes her. Shes got a bad attitude and needs everything to be her way. Well bubs was born and and we have all been playing happy families until her daughter got sick. Now wednesday night we had been to mils for dinner it being winter my kids had snotty noses but werent extremely sick. She had turn up and I didnt know she was coming. My kids had hardly been near the baby (walked past her maybe once or twice) and her baby got sick. She threw a temper tantrum like a 2 year old and blamed me for the whole thing. Even thou her sister she lives with had been sick the whole week. She wrote on fb that I was a bad mum for letting my kids out when they are sick. Little did she know fresh air is good for sick babies. And then goes on to send me a message saying it was all my fault and she doesnt want her daughter around my kids. Blah blah blah. Well mil lost it and stuck up for me threw the whole thing and the rest of the family is on my side. I didnt really care about the whole issue cos its too much drama for my liking but at dp younger sister 18 dinner I offered to hold her daughter while she ate (baby was beeinh restless and crying) and she flat out said no infront of everyone and now I find out shes been *****ing to everyone about me but she doesnt realise they dont like her. No one thinks there relationship will last but I just want an appology or something because I dont think im in the wrong and the whole family is sick of her saying stuff.

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    'only want to see you one time dancing in the purple rain'

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    Honestly, she sounds really immature. I'd just ignore her and forget about an apology, she probably wouldn't mean it if she said it anyway.

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    Im trying to ignore it all but she makes is obvious she doesn't like me and excludes me from things while we are at mils.

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    You could always confront her about it ? I probably wouldn't though, I hate confrontation lol.

    Just remember, she's the one who looks like a b***h.

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    Yeah my dp said if he has a couple of drinks at mils he say somethibg but im not one for confrontation either so ill just see how it goes. Its just annoying because I was there for her thru her whole pregnacy helping her with everything and I get it thrown back in my face.

    'only want to see you one time dancing in the purple rain'

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    hi crossley92, I also would not bother about an apology from her. She seems to be one who likes to have the world spinning on her terms, and she wont even think she needs to apologize for anything, at anytime, in her life. Try to avoid her, dump her from fb, and dont bother with her dramas. She will get tired of being ignored, and maybe go her own way soon enough. Marie.

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    Honestly, way too hard basket, who can be bothered with such a drama over nothing?

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    Thanks heaps guys

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    in order to keep the peace i would say sojmething like:

    "i am sorry to hear bubs got sick...babies can pick things up from all sorts of places and as they get older it gets a bit easier than when they are so small"

    BUt, i would not expect an apology from someone who is clearly ill equipped to give one.

    Focus on the rel with your bil and let her do as she pleases...you have said everyone else dislikes her and is on your side...what more do you want?

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    She sounds like a nasty piece of work!

    I think when dealing with people like her, the best thing to do is kill them with kindness.

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