Thanks Minib and JB it's definitely complex!! We have been researching since June and still come across things we haven't heard of! DF starts her synarel on Thursday. She was a smoker and stopped 3 weeks ago but after a fight with her mother she cracked and had a few. Now I feel anxious because this is not the time to have a lapse. I now how hard it is as I am a smoker (not around her) but gosh I wish I could stop feeling anxious about it all. I'm scared it will cause trouble and I know she would never touch one while pregnant but for now it could affect her eggs or lining. I wish neither of us ever started smoking!!!! She hasn't touched one or even mentioned it today so maybe I'm worrying over nothing!
Vix - I am so sorry that your SIL said that. I guess people don't realise what it's like and say stupid things. You have every right to be sad about it and to grieve over a bio child but I can tell you are also very excited about this new adventure and the odds are good! I will have everything crossed for you!!
Two girls, one dream and baby you are it!