What is your partners stance?
Try to remind them nicely and calmly.
Don't mad at them without reminding them and giving them a chance to get the job done first.
Do you have a written roster placed somewhere everyone can see it?
Do you have the consequences written on it too?
Do you follow through every time? With the same consequence?
Sounds to me like your hubby isn't on board with your needs yet. Getting him in board is they key to solving the whole family problem. Have a deep and meaningful with him, be VERY specific about your needs and wants. Eg
1. I need you to (most of the time) identify things that need to be done, without me having to point them out.
2. I need you to help me come up with a strategy to he the kids to help around the house. And I need you to back me up on the strategy 100% of the time.
3. I need you to cook dinner 1 night per week
My DD is 8 & I still need to remind her where the dishes go. She's pretty lazy in nature, is easily side tracked so I remind her and point out if she did things without waiting to be asked she would have more play time. It's working slowly.
She also use to leave her stuff all over the house, so one day I put it all in a box & covered it in post it notes that had jobs on them. She had to do a job to get an item back, whatever was left in the box at the end of the week went to charity. It was a great way to get my windows cleaned, window sills wiped down & the garden weeded!!
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