I don't really belong in this forum, but I have a question about breaking pregnancy news to someone who's had a stillbirth. I'm wondering because I have a very close friend who has recently had a stillbirth, and I'm pregnant, but I don't want her to find out through someone else, and I think she'll want to know. The irony is that she found out she was pregnant just after I'd lost a second trimester pregnancy, and told me really gently. she's been like a rock to me through that, and I want to be able to find a way to tell her without hurting her. She's one of those super selfless people - when she told me she'd lost the baby, she was more concerned about causing me grief than herself, so I hope I can honour her in that.
How would you want a friend to tell you?
Does that make sense? I don't expect her to find it easy, but I don't want to pretend we've been though the same thing either. I can't even imagine - what I went through was the worst experience of my life, so I don't want to minimize her pain in any way.