I went with that theory too.... it wasn't until the teachers told me there was the issues at school that I knew. He was lying everyday. Or with holding the truth!! So now I make sure I check up with the teachers at least once a week to see how things are going.
Like I said when he does tell me something we always praise. Sometimes it warrants a discussion and sometimes a consequence still needs to be given. We go by that theory at home and when we are out and about. School is a new one for me though
Sounds like your doing a great job jarylee
A teacher really has limited power. IF the child thinks their parent doesn't give two hoots about what they do at school nothing's going to stop them. Why would they care if their parent doesn't? So they miss out on a bit of lunch time or worse class time. For small little things I'd let it go but for bigger things or ongoing things yes I'd step in.
I follow it up at home. He loves playing sky landers on the wii (doesn't have any other type of technology except the tv) which he is only allowed to play on the weekend. If his behaviour hasn't been acceptable he misses out on it over the weekend. He was being a bit silly earlier in the year like making silly noises with his friend in class. That meant no wii. It was/is very effective with him. He counts down the nights until he gets to play it (mind you I still limit his time on there on those days) and he has been behaving so much better.
I ask him at the end of the day about his behaviour. He is honest and owns up to misbehaving - I talk to him about small things (like taking too long to put his shoes on because he's being silly) but he once hit another child and I came down very hard on him. I'm a teacher myself and I find when there's parental support in addressing behavioural issues the kids are less likely to continue with inappropriate behaviour. My son is in prep - turned 5 this year, youngest in his class but still I expect him to respect the classroom/school rules and I'll always follow through with supporting his teacher. Otherwise I feel I'm sending mixed messages about how he is expected to behave.
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