I Am Not Your Slave

[mumtok&z]

Just a bit of a vent girls. I came home from Mum's house tonight expecting;
1) a nice clean kitchen. THis is how I left it before i went out.
2) A clean floor. DH promised to vacuum and mop whilst the kids and i were out.
3) a locked up house. DH and brother are in bed and the whole house is unlocked for any one to just waltz in!
4) a clean guest toilet. I have asked my brother for the last 5 days to clean it!
5) a shopping list. They know tomorrow is shopping day and if they need anything to write it down. Do they? NO! And then they tell me AFTER i have done the shopping that "i needed razors" or " i needed some body wash".
6) a clean dining table. I also left this in clean condition when i walked out the door.
7) a basket od clean washing. I hung this out this morning and left a note for DH to bring it in. IT's still on the damn line! He goes out for a ciggie every hour! Is he blind? can' t he see the washing? or the basket that i leave out there for him!

Sorry , i am sure a few of you have DH's that do the same things! And as for my brother, if he expects me to be his maid he can pay me for it! And i'll be letting him know that I am not cheap!

[mumtok&z]

Oh and i forgot to mention that we have an ant problem so i don't leave dirty dishes around the kitchen. Especially when i go out and when i go to bed. They left biscuit crumbs on some plates! Not a few crumbs , there were enough to smoosh together and make 2 biscuits. And guess what?! The plates were covered in ANTS!!!
I mean, just invite the ants in for a meal! I am so angry. I am having a meet here tomorrow and i didn't plan on spending my night cleaning up after 2 grown men. I just want my house to look nice and predentale. Is that too much to ask for?

[EskimoMumma]

I would honestly, LEAVE IT. Ignore their own whinging and ramblings and..jesus bloody..

my blood would be BOILING. hell, i probably would have woken up my DP to get him to bloody clean!!!



Honestly hun, LEAVE IT!!!!! Dont do it, no matter even if there are ants. The men have to learn you are not their slave. ARGHH.!

[NZMama]

And this is why as the mothers of boys they need to be the ones to set examples because otherwise you end up with men who take the woman in their lives for granted!
In our house our parents shared all domestic things, as a result my 2 brothers and I also shared chores equally. We didnt have a mummy running around after us we were taught to take responsibility for ourselves.
I would take the plates into their rooms, not do their laundry, tell them 'well next time you will remember to put it on the shopping list hey' when they ask for something AFTER youve done the shopping. They can only get away with what you let them get away with.
Trust me your not alone my DP had a mother who at 31 still runs around after him cleaning making his bed doing his dishes. She dosnt do me any favours but he has got the message that Im not his mother!

[Mahjong]

Yep, definately leave it.

Their arms and legs are painted on and you aren't the only one that lives in the house.

[Mum2Bug]

Want me to come sort them out hun?

[mumtok&z]

I left the plates covered in ants next to their lunchboxes ( which i refuse to wash anyway), si they probably got a nice surprise when they went to pack their lunches. I also decided that i would vacuum at 11 o'clock at night, using our noisy Kirby vacuum cleaner. I will also be leaving a nasty note for when they get back from work. I am going to take the kids out shopping and we'll eat out. DH and my brother can fend for them selves.
Actually I think my brother needs to move out. This was meant to be a temporary thing now he is talking about "us" finding a new house in April and "we " will have to pack all our stuff again! I just said to him " what is all this "we" s#*t?".

[*Country Bumpkin*]

Im assuming that they both have two legs, two arms and a heart beat.(the heart beat wouldnt be ther once I was finished with em )

Let them do it

[NZMama]

I left the plates covered in ants next to their lunchboxes ( which i refuse to wash anyway), si they probably got a nice surprise when they went to pack their lunches. I also decided that i would vacuum at 11 o'clock at night, using our noisy Kirby vacuum cleaner. I will also be leaving a nasty note for when they get back from work. I am going to take the kids out shopping and we'll eat out. DH and my brother can fend for them selves.
Actually I think my brother needs to move out. This was meant to be a temporary thing now he is talking about "us" finding a new house in April and "we " will have to pack all our stuff again! I just said to him " what is all this "we" s#*t?".

Oh I love it!
Us and we when its sposed to be temporary? Hmm someone def needs a nudge

[mum2bubba]

Yeah men have no idea do they? One time I went to the shop and I said to Grant "can you please put Hayleys p.js on her and clean the highchair, when I got back (about 40 minutes later) she was still in her clothes and the high chair still had food on it and when I asked him why he couldn't do TWO SIMPLE THINGS he says "I tried to put her pyjamas on her but she wouldn't let me" I looked over to where I put her p.js (on the couch) and they hadn't even been touched I said to him "shes a baby, you're an adult, put your foot down and tell her that its time to get ready for bed" This has happened a few times, I leave simple instructions but I end up doing ot half the time anyway. Also I hate the fact that he complains to other ppl when the house is messy but does he do anything about it? No. Does he see a pile of washing and think to himself "hmm, maybe I should fold it" No, men don't think about that stuff, well not often anyway, occasionally Grant tidies the lounge or whatever but thats not exactly hard, he helps with dinner sometimes and he is usually pretty goodwith Hayley (usually if I ask him to do something 50 times) Vent over.