DH's boss slipped in a meeting and asked him how our scan went, and now he's not sure who knows and who doesn't. Problem is, there are some people at his workplace that have mutual friends with DH's ex-wife.
He's concerned that it's going to get back to his two boys before we are ready to tell them, so he's pushing to tell them we're pregnant but I'm terrified that something is going to happen in these next few weeks (9 weeks now) and we'll have to tell people there's no baby after all.
My issue is that neither of the boys can keep a secret - particularly the oldest (autistic with intellectual disability) will blurt it out to everyone he sees before even saying hello to them! So effectively telling the boys is as good as announcing publicly.
Having this happen has also brought up DH's frustrations about not being able to tell his family about doing IVF. I requested that he didn't say anything to them because one of his sisters is still friends with his ex-wife and doesn't think anything of sharing other people's information (which would trigger the above scenario). He wasn't happy about it, but he did what I asked. My parents and sister knew because we're currently living with my parents, so it was rather unavoidable.
So now he's quite peeved (we've been emailing back and forth) and we're going to a cafe after work to talk about things (better privacy than home at the moment). I have no idea how to resolve this situation, so any words of advice would be greatly appreciated!