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    Default ttc feeling lost, any advice please

    Hello ladies, this might be a long post but please if you could read and help me out that would be amazing.

    My partner and I have been ttc since march (I know its not that long but I'm starting to get worried) I got off BC in Feb since then my cycles have found their pattern but its too long! 44 days on average. Last cycle was 40 days. The waiting feels like years then when AF shows up I'm crushed. I try not to stress too much but the worry is building up. I'm terrified of anaovulary cycles. I'm not overly overweight maybe 5-10kgs but having the long cycles scares me. And AF is usually very heavy on day one (I had been putting this down to having such a long cycle but now I don't know) 

    We decided that this cycle would be the one that we tried almost anything (by almost I mean I Dont temp. Only because my temps are normally all over the place) so I bought a pack of 40 OPKs online, a maybe baby saliva tester and sperm friendly gel. From the day AF left I started them all. We are BDing every second day no matter what just incase. Every day I've had ferns on the saliva yester so I guess that's not accurate for me. And the cheap OPKs gave me two postives that were way to early. One on 19/08 and one on 22/08 due to long cycles I shouldn't be Oing until early September. So for the last week I've been using a clearblue digital ovulation test. No smiley face yet. We've also been taking conception vitamins, drinking fertility tea and eating loads of fruit and veg.

    I'm feeling super lost and a little bit broken. So any positive stories from long cycles or advise please send my way! 


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    Hi there.

    I don't have long cycles but it is possible that your cycle is still regulating after being on the pill. Some people fall back into a Normal pattern straight away others take time.

    From my experience Being in your healthy bmi will help so work on getting those extra kilos off, it also gives you something else to think about. If your worries re your cycles you can see your gp for basic testing. How old are you if you don't mind me asking?

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    Hi. It can take 6-12 months for your cycle to settle after being on the pill. It took me 7 months after stopping the pill, to get pregnant. I tried everything. The maybe baby didn't work for me. I ended up only temping. I used the fertility friend phone app, and put in my temp daily and it told me when I o'd. It really helped to identify when I was ovulating and how long my luteal phase was. Then in the months going forward, I had a pretty good idea when I was going to O. Provided you are ovulating, the length of your cycle won't affect your ability to fall pregnant, provided you dtd around the time you're due to ovulate.

    I had so many people tell me to relax and it will happen. It is impossible to relax when you want something so badly. Having said that, the month I fell pregnant, we were on holidays around O time and I was a lot more relaxed and less focussed on it (could be a coincidence).

    Good luck with it and I hope you are pregnant soon.

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    Thank you ladies. I'm 22 and my partner is 24 so I'm hoping age is on our side! I understand it can take time and that I'm just being impatient its just hard not to worry. I think because its our first I'm worried that there could be something wrong. All I know is I'm not going back on the pill ever!

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    I know how you feel! I was TTC for a couple of years before I succeeded with my DS. It is stressful and heartbreaking every time AF arrives. It sounds like you are doing all you can at the moment. Good luck! There are some fantastic and supportive TTC threads here and they will have plenty more advice for you if you need it I'm sure, they are particularly useful when trying to avoid focussing on every possible symptom in your two week wait

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    Oh thank u I will have to check them out because I certainly do focus on symptoms on the TWW when I know I shouldn't

    Keeping fingers crossed that this will be our month!

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    It's possible you're surging early but then not releasing the egg, so your body backs off then tries again a bit later.

    I'd prob suggest getting some tests done, just to see if there's anything funny going on with your hormones. Good luck!!

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    That's what I was scared of... Hopefully second time lucky? Or would it not work that way?
    Do normal gps do hormone testing or would I have to go somewhere else?

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    It's not necessarily a problem. I think you ARE ovulating as you're getting AF. Just taking a while to get there, which might be affecting egg quality (but it might not be).

    I would ask a GP to refer you to a fertility specialist/reproductive endocrinologist. GPs don't tend to know much at all about fertility stuff. Where do you live?

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    Oh thank u that makes me feel a bit better. I am in qld on the gold coast any recommendations?


 

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