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    Default what would you do?? advice???????

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    Not a chance. What a dead beat. Your sons deserve better than that. Don't bring him back into their lives.

    Sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.

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    I would be seeking some professional guidance.. I guess I would start with the GP and see if they could refer me to a counselling service. This is the kind of stuff that can have lasting impacts... So sorry you are in such a tough situation OP

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    no way i would. noooooooo. he has issues.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Theophania View Post
    I would be seeking some professional guidance.. I guess I would start with the GP and see if they could refer me to a counselling service. This is the kind of stuff that can have lasting impacts... So sorry you are in such a tough situation OP
    I agree with this. Although your ds is only young I think it would be good to have a plan as such of how to deal with the 'why isn't my Dad here' questions.

    If I was in your situation I'd most likely just help my ds. Stuff the ex. He hasn't shown interest in his children from the start. Don't let him cause any further harm.

    As for your son remembering, I had some pretty bad things happen while pregnant with ds2. Ds1 was 3 when ds2 was born and has only in the last 6 months stopped mentioning anything. He mentioned things less and less over the last couple of years. I think his memory is starting to fade, thankfully.

    Good luck OP.

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    I think that behaviour and emotions can be very high during a break up and people can act and say things in the heat of the moment. Like everyone else I still think he sounds like a bit of a knob but I also think a child deserves to know both parents so I would approach the ex, see what he is like now and whether he is willing and able to have a constructive and positive influence and relationship with your ds and an amicable and respectful arrangement with you and go from there... If he can I wouldn't just dive into it, I'd do supervised visits etc...

    In a perfect world a child would be able to have access to both parents but I realise its not a perfect world and only you can know whether its the right thing to do.

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    I'm so sorry you and the kids had to go through that. Unforgivable.

    I would agree about the psychologist. Your DS probably has some stuff to work through, but I don't think bringing such a bad influence back into his/your life would be a good move

    You're obviously a great mum, trying to consider what's best for your kids

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    I would put the kids in counselling and I wouldn't let them see their dad

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