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    Hi im 21 & I'm a mother of 2 girls 18mnths & an almost 3yr old, i have depression and I've had it since after giving birth to my 2nd daughter, I'm on tablets and i just feel I'm not getting anywhere! I have no friends, & family that lives ages away! i feel so alone no one to talk to its a mission to go to the shops or anywhere as i don't drive and the bus stop is a hike and the bus only comes every so often so i don't get out much! i just don't know what to do, I'm so tired all the time don't even feel like getting out of bed or doing anything, I'm always angry! Yet even tho i feel like this some how i manage to get up and take care of my kids and there always well looked after i just feel i don't know how much longer i can cope!

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    *hugs* I'm in a similar position with my emotional state so I understand how difficult it is. Do you have a partner who supports you? I would suggest that you see a counsellor (there are ones you can see for free), and also you may need to be put on some different medications as everyone is different and what you're on might not be right for you. Is there a mothers group you can join? That can be a fantastic support and a good way to make new friends. Hang in there, I know it's tough right now but you will get through this!!

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    hi Thankyou for your comment! yea i would love to see a councillor but its hard for me to get anywhere and no one to look after my children when i do, as for a support and mums groups not really the get together group kind of person! if that makes any sense, and kinda have my ex partner were living in the same place but separated but he's always working and doesn't really understand and is not very supportive of my depression so i really have no one! And this is the second type if DP tablets that I've tried everyone says i will get better soon but it doesn't feel like it ;(

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    Quote Originally Posted by tmaid92 View Post
    Hi im 21 & I'm a mother of 2 girls 18mnths & an almost 3yr old, i have depression and I've had it since after giving birth to my 2nd daughter, I'm on tablets and i just feel I'm not getting anywhere! I have no friends, & family that lives ages away! i feel so alone no one to talk to its a mission to go to the shops or anywhere as i don't drive and the bus stop is a hike and the bus only comes every so often so i don't get out much! i just don't know what to do, I'm so tired all the time don't even feel like getting out of bed or doing anything, I'm always angry! Yet even tho i feel like this some how i manage to get up and take care of my kids and there always well looked after i just feel i don't know how much longer i can cope!

    I can relate. & tough love & support is what u need. Here if you want to talk.

    Could have written this post myself you're stuck in the same rut & negative thinking I am. I have no friends here & toxic family that live interstate no licence & no public transport here .
    My psychologist told me it's about changing my way of thinking lowering my expectations of everything & everyone including myself as I'm my own worst critic Focusing on the now not the what it's of could haves cause it gets you nowhere but stressed & that's not good for anyone.

    Meds help but they aren't supposed to fix everything more a coping mechanism. I'm on my 4th different anti-depressant since being diagnosed at 15 &preg & medicated whilst preg so almost 8 yrs of meds n I still have days where it's too much & too much effort. I lost my patience big time today n went into a very dark Mood reaulting in a big $h!t fight unsettled kids & me in tears

    If it wasn't for my best friend I'd have completely melted down

    I think its best you get yourself to a dr n mental health care plan in place or reviewed & referral to counselling or paychologist. for the benefit of your children & yourself
    I know it's difficult to get around without licence & public transport is horrid with littles. But you need to make the time & effort to get to an appointment. Even if it means having to ask your ex to drive u or walking youve gotta take care of yourself cause no one elae will n if mums not good no one is good. Mum is the backbone if the family & we keep it all together mum falls apart everyone falls apart & i know that can seem unfair but its true
    Looking after yourself & your own well being is important Otherwise you'll find your depression will start to increasingly spiral downwards.

    I know you don't want to feel this way & reaching out be it here or in person is a great step. You're saying I need help & support. Now you just need an action plan & even if its in baby steps it's still positive.

    Hugs pm me if u want to talk. X


 

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