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    Contradicting maybe?

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    I don't think she contradicted herself. From my understanding she is saying of you are a SAHM why put kids in care 4-5 days a week. She is not saying they shouldn't just that more than 3 days a week is a bit much

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    I think she's contradicting.... She's saying its dumb to put your kids in daycare more than 3 days a week and be a SAHM but only has her own kid 3 days a week because he's with his dad the other days... And puts him in daycare on those days, despite not working then, so when does she actually spend time with him exactly? A SAHM using daycare for 5 full days doll has the weekends with them. Sounds like the woman OP is talking about doesn't even do that!

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    I agree with SassyMummy. Total contradiction.

    Quote Originally Posted by kw123 View Post
    Unfortunately the ones I am on lists for do not.
    They are meant to (it's not a particularly easy policy to police, unfortunately) and most centres do prioritise - but they don't force already enrolled children to cut back their days or cancel them. They try to move people around and accommodate single parents, children with special needs, disadvantaged families etc, but they generally prioritise as positions become available.

    Positions do become available all the time - circumstances change regularly - but the lists are sooooo long for most places, with a whole heap of the aforementioned single parents, special needs kids, disadvantaged families on the lists already, that it doesn't make much of a difference. And it's just going to get even worse come next year with many centres cutting places rather than hiring new staff.
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    I have 2 girls 1 in kinder 3 day a week and 1 in daycare 2 days a weeks Im a SAHM. M T W are kinder days and T T are daycare days I get 1 day with no children but 1 day to spend with just my older girl

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    Quote Originally Posted by shellandliv84 View Post
    Her son was in daycare all 3 days when she was at home. Those 3 days were the only days she had him at the time
    It might seem silly/ridiculous/selfish etc. to many, myself included, but IMO it's better for the child to be at daycare if the parent doesn't want them at home all day.

    I can't imagine any of the other parents saying such things to me at DS's daycare (we normally talk about non-kid stuff actually!). But if they did I wouldn't really take it on board as I don't see the point in judging them (its hardly going to change things).

    Like I said above, if a parent doesn't want the child home all day then it's better if the child is at daycare, where they get activities, can play with other kids etc.

    My DS has a wonderful daycare experience at his little centre and I keep him in his 3 days when I'm not working (I do periodic contract work). He loves it and I get to relax which is nice as a SP!

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    I have been with the same daycare for almost 8 years so have seen a lot of the parents almost every day for a lot of that time so the daycare mums are people ive known longer then some friends.
    As I said, it doesn't bother me what other people do, Ijust thought it was contradictory what she was saying.

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    And I totally gethow nice it would be to have a day by yourself. We are going on holidays in a month and I am more excited to have the day before we leave off work, kids at school and daycare all to myself!

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    Yes she is contradicting herself.

    As an aside, I get very judgy of parents who use daycare 4 or 5 days a week and don't work. I think it's lazy. Unless there are extenuating circumstances of course, which I acknowledge we might not know about. Even 3 days a week I think is a bit much unless they really aren't coping.

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    I find it hard to give a general opinion as there's not really a general scenario. I fight tooth and nail to get as much time with my DS as humanly possible, I certainly wouldn't be giving up any of those hours for "me time". I feel I get enough "me time" and it's not worth giving up the "us time".
    Than again, I feel I have been rather spoilt as a parent. My sleep deprivation was nothing compared to others, DS tantrums were on the end of mild only ever having 1 really big one to to top all of that off, I only have 1 child! If all this weren't the case- I might think totally different.


 

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