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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    Have you apologised to her?

    I apologise to my kids if I feel I reacted badly to a situation. Explain that you did the wrong thing. But also explain her behaviour was bad. And explain how you both should have acted.

    no, not exactly i tucked her in bed and just wanted to put it all behind us.
    That protective mother instinct sure kicked in, it was like a reflex to hit her back, i scared myself even. i was so upset my DS got caught in the middle of it all.
    DH apparently had words with her in the bath. I just didnt want to bring it up again.
    great reinforcemnt, hey.
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    Goodness I think I probably would have had a similar kind of reaction. It's the mother bear in us that makes us so protective of our baby! My bub got hurt once or twice by the 3 year old and I found it so very upsetting to see my poor innocent baby treated roughly.
    I'm one of those people with high ideals about how I should behave as a mother. I have a whole range of 'shoulds' and 'should nots' in my head. Things I never wanted to ever do (such as smack). But last year when I had a baby (now much easier as is a toddler) I broke so many of my own rules and it just bent my head and broke my heart.
    I look back on that year and I had so many moments I am anything but proud of. There is just so much pressure especially when you have the terrible two's to deal with as well as a needy baby.
    I understand your anguish completely as definitely been there. I just treat the next day as new and try to start over and do my very best again.

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    Don't be so hard on yourself!! I'd say all of us lose our cool at times!! I reacted badly a couple of weeks ago when my eldest hurt her little sister and it made me better to go and give DD1 a cuddle and explain why mummy was so cross afterwards ( once wed all had time to cool off) 2/3 years old are seriously hard work sometimes!

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    Like every other post on here has said; don't be so hard on yourself. It was a first reaction, yeah- maybe not your proudest of moments but it is what it is and maybe you can learn something from it. It's a good time to sit back and think how should that have been handled, avoided etc etc

    I don't know a parent that hasn't been in this situation at least once (some, like myself are unfortunately experts).

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    I think that was an understandable reaction and honestly a slap back isn't going to scar her for life, maybe she'd realize how not nice it is to get slapped. Honestly she won't even remember it in a day or two and it sounds like you gave her plenty of warning. I got slapped plenty by my mum I'm perfectly adjusted successful grown woman.

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    Don't be too hard on yourself.. I did the same thing with DS on the weekend : ( He bit me really hard on the inside of my arm and I slapped him across the face. I didn't even have time to think. It just happened. I cried for 2 hours afterwards because I felt so terrible.
    You're only human. Things like this happen. It's the fight or flight instinct.


 

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