in the way i handeld a situation this evening.
It was bath time. DD (2.5yrs) was in one of her 'moods' ignoring DH and i, doing as she wants, doing everything but what we ask of her.
She LOVES to look at photos and videos of herself on my phone.
I said she could have 3 minutes playing on my phone THEN she needs to go have a bath. ( i know she doesnt have a sense of time yet, but i just wanted to let her know it wont be for long, then she must do as she's told or no phone ever again, sort of thing).
I kept warning her when i was going to take it from her/put it down.
Meanwhile, i was feeding my 8mth old, she was sitting next to me on the phone.
The final warning i said , "ok times up, put the phone down or give it to me, it's time for your bath". DH was standing there watching/waiting for DD (he does her bath).
I gave her a moment to process.
I said "Ta please, hand me the phone and go with dad for your bath now please..." She wouldnt give it up and ignored me.
So i just took it from her and said "phone goes off now".....
She went nuts.
I guess she went to hit and slap me...but because i was nursing my 8mth old, he was in the way and he got slappd and hit 3 times in the face.
Im the heat of the moment, i was gobsmacked at:
a) where did she learn to slap/hit?
b) she's hurt my baby..he's really, really crying and i hope he doesnt think i hurt him.
I was shocked....
So....i smacked her back....on the face.....not hard at all, she didnt even notice because she was in such a horrible state already.... but that's besides the point.
What angers me is that DH stood there watching tv the whole time. When he heard DS cry he realised what was happenening and whitnessed me smack DD on the face. He said nothing and took her away. He didnt help me out with the phone situation at all.
I yelled at DD and said "we dont ever slap in this house....."....but i just did?
I have never ever wanted to be a mum who contradicts herself and confuses her kids with whats right and wrong behaviour. But here i am doing just that.
...i am aware of all the other ways i could have handeled this situation, so please, no judgement. I just needed to get it off my chest and realise what just unfolded. I was just so angry that my poor 8mth old who was happily feeding....got hurt by her stupid tantrum and that i didnt help the situation at all or teach her anything about her behariour and consequences. i acted like a kid, not an adult. dammit.