Yes, I have sensitive kids and the book Gothel recommended is brilliant.
Best advice I have is to accept them for who they are and don't try to 'toughen them up'. But do spend time on emotion coaching to help them handle their emotions so they don't get overwhelmed.
Thanks so much for the replies everyone, that is really helpful.
Gothel - I will buy that book online right now! it sounds really good.
Thanks again everyone. I've woken up armed with a bit of extra patience today. Probably helps that DH is here for the weekend too haha!
Zombie - she truly is a sweetheart. She is a very special kid and that is why I get so annoyed with myself for not having more patience.
Anyway, onwards and upwards, as they say.
DS is never the mean kid, and I think our little sensitive ones have a real gift. The problem is that one needs to be resilient in this world. Unlike your child OP my DS doesn't get upset if he does the wrong thing/breaks something as such, just when others are mean.
I really think the fact you acknowledge your DD is sensitive and adjust your parenting style to consider that is a very good start. Getting angry doesn't really work with sensitive kids at all (I was one too) and you realise that (wish my parents did!!). Sensitive kids respond better to words, conversation and affection, reason combined with warmth. There are many things she will learn the hard way though unfortunately :/
I honestly think sensitive children grow up to be the most resilient adults of all. They have emotional intelligence, which if we think about it, is why they get upset to begin with (they understand).
Great post. I have a little sensitive soul master 4. The questionnaire basically described him to a tee. Am def going to get the book too. Thanks all xx
I totally get where you are coming from. DS 4.5yrs is so sensitive, that even crossing the road can be stressful for him. I am at my wits end on what to do for him. You'd think I would know as I am one of those sensitive children who has grown up to be a sensitive adult!! Often I can approach him on his level, but it is hard even for me! I hardly know what to do for myself let alone him! the only thing I can say for me is that I embrace who is rather than try to change him. I feel that I would be denying him his feelings if I go against what he feels. I try to always put a positive spin on a situation that is concerning him and try to get him to see that side of things also.
At this stage, I will continue to keep an eye on him, might even discuss things with a GP.
BTW thanks for starting this thread, as there have been some good suggestions made that all of us with sensitive children can benefit from. Hope you find some answers.
DS is quite the same with being lovely to other kids and not alway getting the same response back. Breaks my heart to see that hurt look. Just today at the park he was smiling at a kid and they were taking turns going down the slide. All good till the kid suddenly pushed past DS to climb up the slippery slide when it was DS' turn. DS didn't really react but just stood aside with 'that' look. On the way home he said 'Why did that boy have to push me on my turn Mummy?'...Caught me off guard that he was still thinking about it and I wasn't sure how to explain it to him either?!
I was a sensitive child myself (still am a fairly sensitive adult) so I can definitely sympathise with him taking every little thing to heart. I can still recall stupid things kids said to me in kindergarten and how I felt at the time. I think it's a tricky thing to watch him learn the same lessons that I had to learn the hard way - that sometimes you can be nice to others but they won't always be nice back! Definitely feel like I want to protect him from all that... but know that I can't.
I agree that sensitive children are highly emotionally intelligent though and often able to articulate their feelings well so patience, reassurance and rationally talking things over seems the best strategy. My mother sent me to my room once and only once as a child - she never did it again because she was wracked with guilt as I got soooo distraught and apparently talked about how scared I was for weeks afterwards (I remember it vaguely too!)
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