My sister's boyfriend gets annoyed if I don't let him take DS out on outings.
A brief background - my sister and I didn't grow up together (same dad diff mum), but since I had DS (3) she has been in my life more or less regularly (apart from about 8 months when i didn't see her at all due to her being busy with work and uni). She has been with her boyfriend for 4-5 years. He is a responsible, nice guy with a decent job and he adores DS, which is lovely.
Lately, they like to take DS out for a few hours here and there. I'm fine with that and appreciate the break (it would have been nice when he was 1 and things were really tough for me but hey I'm not complaining).
But now he texts me wanting to take DS here or there (not with my sister presumably). It's happened twice now. The first time I was indisposed with DS somewhere, and this time he wanted to take DSto the circus.
I said that was a lovely offer but I am morally and ethically against circuses*, and sorry to be a wet blanket but it's important to me, but thank you anyway.
He got pi**ed with me and sent me a rude text message reply.
This is my son, not his and he can think what he likes but I am a bit disgusted at his rudeness and immaturity - he isn't a dad, but he is 26-27 and is an adult. I don't feel overly confident sending DS out with people as it is, but after this I feel like my sister's bf is a d*ck head and am not sure i want him taking DS anywhere (without my sister there) in future!
How should I handle this going forward? How would you handle it?
Please don't give me grief for my opinions regarding circuses, as I don't think that's really the point here.
*I had considered taking DS to the circus myself until I did a but if research regarding their animal treatment and found they beat the monkeys/animals with sticks etc. (wont go in to detail here)