It seems that there are plenty of bubhubbers whose Parents were well "below average". whether they were abusive, alcoholic, workaholic, neglectful or just absent, do you think your "below average" parent has shaped the way you parent?
I know mine have. When I first became a mother It really hit home how neglectful my mother was to me growing up and i know every time I see dh with dd I have pangs of sadness that I never had a father growing up and got to be a "daddy's girl". My childhood has definitely shaped the way I want to parent.