+ Reply to Thread
Results 1 to 10 of 10
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Posts
    3,678
    Thanks
    788
    Thanked
    1,847
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts

    Default Twin birthday party etiquette

    DS (9) started a new school this year.

    He just got a party invite from a kid he has become friends with and there are 2 names on it (i.e. come to john and jackie's party)...after a bit of digging we figured out his friend has a twin (he had no idea lol).

    So, when i RSVP...do i say "DS would love to come to John's party"...and do i take both kids a present??

    The only other twin party he went to he was good friends with both kids so it was an easy thing!

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Location
    Lockwood South
    Posts
    1,878
    Thanks
    780
    Thanked
    181
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Big present for John, small token gift for Jackie. ( like a bangle or something small)

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    5,005
    Thanks
    1,052
    Thanked
    3,524
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    I would mention both kids names and get them both a gift. Fair enough if you wanted to get the one he is friends with something bigger though, but I'd probably spend the same.

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Jun 2012
    Posts
    976
    Thanks
    262
    Thanked
    298
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    If it was me, I would think 2 presents one for each. If it seems excessive just 2 smaller presents than you'd normally get for a birthday present.

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Jan 2013
    Posts
    975
    Thanks
    7
    Thanked
    243
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I would get two presents one for each and if you want split the cost you would normally spend on one present for an only child across both.

  6. #6
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
    Location
    Gold Coast
    Posts
    8,267
    Thanks
    309
    Thanked
    356
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    I have friends with twins,and have often done joint parties for my kids as they are a day apart.My rule is twins= 2 lesser value pressies,one for each or something they can share.My kids birthdays,same rule applies.

  7. #7
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Posts
    3,678
    Thanks
    788
    Thanked
    1,847
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    hmmm, being the new mum/kid at the school is hard lol

    I am sure if I had known them a few years I would know more what to do.

    The sister is in a different class...so DS really does not know her.

    I hope I did not offend when I only invited "John" to DS's party...totally oblivious to the twin!

    I might check with one the other mums what the deal normally is.

    I would prefer fewer, better gifts...than heaps of small crappy ones....does that make sense? But, if the kids have all been at school together for 4 years...they all prob know both of the twins well!

    rsvp via text message has been requested...should I acknowledge i had no idea John had a twin lol

  8. #8
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    1,728
    Thanks
    878
    Thanked
    891
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    What about one present that they can share? I know that can sometimes be a bit of a no-no out of respect for their individuality, but it might just be perfect for this situation - they'd get a decent present that they could both use, or use together.

  9. #9
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Posts
    10,012
    Thanks
    14,124
    Thanked
    7,612
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    I'd be happy enough just getting a present for whichever twin was the friend to be honest. But if it makes you feel uncomfortable, then a token gift sounds nice too.

  10. #10
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    Location
    Toowoomba
    Posts
    15,262
    Thanks
    628
    Thanked
    1,178
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 26/3/15100 Posts in a week
    Growing up I never expected gifts from my brother's friends and he never expected anything from mine.

    DS went to a twin party a couple of years ago but he knew both of them so I sent him with something for each of them. Given that your chold doesn't know the other twin I'd be inclined to just send a small token gift.

    Sent from my GT-N8010 using The Bub Hub mobile app


 

Similar Threads

  1. Birthday party etiquette
    By Moxy in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 31-05-2013, 15:43
  2. Wdyt? Engagement party etiquette
    By SoThisIsLove in forum General Chat
    Replies: 102
    Last Post: 05-04-2013, 21:11
  3. Party Etiquette
    By Jarylee in forum General Chat
    Replies: 36
    Last Post: 17-12-2012, 16:35

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
sales & new stuffsee all
Bub Hub Sales Listing
HAVING A SALE? Let parents know about it with a Bub Hub Sales listing. Listings are featured on our well trafficked Sales Page + selected randomly to appear on EVERY page
featured supporter
Be In Blossom
We offer physiotherapy run pregnancy Pilates, pregnancy Aerobics, and Mummy Pilates & Baby Massage classes with a focus on optimising posture, body awareness, pelvic floor support, back care and maintaining fitness, aiming to assist women prepare and recover from their birth.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!