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    I never missed out on anything as a child but my parents are divorced and both remarried....as a result i became stuck between families and still to this day it is a competition to see which parent is better in their eyes.....very much emotionally scarred me and really had stuffed up my life.....so average parenting by my parents.

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    Just a dad here. He was/is complex. Mum died suddenly at 32 leaving behind three girls under six.

    Keep a business going and provided us with everything we could ever want/need in a material sense and still does.

    But he on another planet and completely disconnected from us

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    Yes.

    I don't have unhappy memories of my childhood, but not really happy ones either.

    I am close with my mum and dad now, they did the best they could with 6 kids when interest rates were at 17%!

    My mum tells me now she regrets spending so much time cleaning the house, especially when I tell her how much I take the kids out to the park etc.
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    I don't remember much from my childhood. I was a daddy's girl till about 15 when I became friends with my now DH, he didn't approve of the friendship and tried very hard to stop it. I remember mum and dad arguing a lot with dad always leaving and only coming back because my brother and I begged him to. Mum had/has depression so that made life a bit miserable. My brother and I were always running away from home because we couldn't deal with mum any more. Mum and dad kicked me out of home at 17 because I refused to end my friendship with now DH. I tried really hard to mend my relationship with dad but he made it really hard. I haven't seen him for 3 yrs now. I tolerate my mum because I feel I have to keep the peace. I would quite happily wipe her from my life as well though.

    I would say they are/were average-below average and I hope my kids and I have a better relationship.

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    My parents were/are fantastic overall. There are certain things that'd fit well in the 'average' thread: smacking, teasing me about a boy I said I loved when I was about 6, letting us watch a lot of TV, being ridiculously overbearing when we were teenagers, not taking us placing that were too much work....
    but they always meant well and, like any other parents, needed to do things to save their sanity :P

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    Quote Originally Posted by Herbies View Post
    The day after watching this movie my brother and I were playing in the computer room and mum lined up all our dolls outside the door as if they were staring us down and had walked there themselves. My brother and I when finished playing turned to see all our dolls lined up for us. Cue screams from us and howls of laughter from mum... Love it!
    Love it.

    Mum and Dad had their strengths and weaknesses. Without them and their unique style of parenting- I probably wouldn't be the parent I am today.

    They both worked. Mum often at night. They're 11 years apart so I think they were caught between 2 differing gernerations. One where the women did everything, and the other where women went into the workforce. Naturally- Mum ended up working full time AND taking care of kids/house etc. She thought Dad would change, or the time wasn't right to leave. I wish she had. I learnt from this that people rarely change, there is never a right time to leave and never stay for the benefit of the kids because more often than not- your doing them more harm than good.

    Dad- well as I said, he was caught in that generational gap. He was a really hard worker, but not great with long term financial planning/investing. A very hard task master but nothing was ever good enough. He'd encourage us by pointing out our flaws. He can hold a grudge with the best of them and is very on/off people. For this reason- we never really had a lot of family friends. A sad reality. Now that we're older, he believes we "owe" him. We should be paying his way in his twilight years. Needless to say- I don't have a relationship with my father. Once upon a time, he wanted what was best for us but now a days he wants the best from us.

    I had a good childhood and I'm glad I can see that my parents intentions were good and they were only doing what they thought was best at the time, and I do love them for my past, but feel deeply sorry for them (particulary my Dad) for their future.

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    My parents were very average based on the other thread, but I honestly can't think of any way my brother & I suffered for it. The negative impacts would have happened even if they'd been parents of the century.

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    I think it's nice to read people saying their parents are/were superhuman. I think that about mine too. I am sure they were every bit as average as I am. I hope my kids look back and consider me to be superhuman too.


 

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