I don't iron either, if something absolutely needs ironing dh does it 99% of the time.
I do teach my kids to cook way before high school too. DD2 (gr6) made 2 lasagnas and a pasta bake on the weekend and helped me make rissoles, curry and honey soy chicken legs.
I believe it is my job to teach my children skills to help them be independent. they also know how to do a load of washing and what should be pegged out and what should go in the dryer. The can use a mop and bucket etc...
It was a real shock to me when dd went to uni with kids that couldn't cook, wash or even shop for food. They had never done anything like that, there mummy did everything for them.
Last edited by LoveLivesHere; 19-08-2013 at 11:43.
I made my (and my brothers') lunch for school from a very young age as both parents were out the door for work early in the morning. We were also expected to cook dinner, iron, clean the bathroom etc. from about the age of 9-10(?)
Nit only is it not mean, it's an important part of learning to contribute to a household. Too many parents spoil their kids and do everything for them IMO. When I first started seeing my ex, his mother still came over and did his washing!! Wrong!
Last edited by Ellewood; 19-08-2013 at 11:38.
I pack my kids' lunches and do their ironing, it's never occurred to me to ask them to do it. But I'm sure my kids have jobs others don't and that it all evens out
Aw thanks meet the bluths! I honestly think there are some people who think I'm mean, and maybe I am!
ffrenchie - my kids think I mean.
Who really cares if they do think that, your kids will grow up with skills and be great independent people who can do these things and not rely on there partners/ mums to do everything for them and that is the real win in my book.
My son is only 1 so I can't really comment yet, although I do plan on teaching him these kinds of skills early.
Just wanted to add to previous comments about teaching independence - MIL still does SIL's laundry and she's 30yo. She would also go over to DF's bachelor pad when he was 35 and spring clean it (he was living there with 2 flatmates at the time).
If ever I needed reasons to teach my son independence, those are it!!
Ds6 1/2 makes his own lunch or packs most of it at least. I check to make sure he has enough and it's balanced and make him anything else he wants or can't ie cutting carrot sticks with a sharp knife.
It just happened naturally. He started making his own breakfast when he would wake up instead of waiting for me to be out of the shower etc. it progressed from there. He just knows there are certain things that need to be done in order to get us all out the door so he helps where he can with the routine this includes taking rubbish out when needed and taking care of the pets.
I don't think it's mean at all. Teaching independence and consideration to helping out at home is a key part of learning to be an adult. Things don't magically get washed or lunches made.. Someone has to do it- at an appropriate age why can't the kids chip in too?
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