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    Default Dealing with Anger

    Hi all, we all know anger is a real feeling that one can sometimes control and others we can not control (or so it would seem)
    I have always had a bit of a short temper and perhaps a little impatient with certain things however I have found my temper worse with having my DS whom by the way is a great baby and is just about always happy.
    I find myself not able to cope with some things (seems like some days my coping is very minimal) but then other days I am fine or more than fine but when I get tired and angry watch up because I throw things, much to my DH disgust (he hates it when I throw things but it's just my outlet it makes me feel like I can release the anger however because of his past volatile relationship he has banned me from throwing things which makes me even more angry quite frankly) I really try not too though.
    I am trying to stay calm and work through my anger but I am finding it difficult I think there is alot of triggers and I guess I just have to deal with them one at a time.
    Even though DS and I were healthy all the way through pregnancy and birth; I had a hard time getting him out (long story short - 4 days of inductions and in the end he was C-Sec which I really hated having to have done) and I don't think I have really accepted it. I had really terrible time bf'ing and had to call it quits 9 weeks in which I was absolutely cut up by.
    I know there are many other things that 'get my goat' so much so I want to inflict harm (mostly to non living things) but I have threatened my DH before because he annoys me so much sometimes but I am pretty sure I would never do anything to anyone especially my DS, I have walked away before and know to do it if I loose it.
    Can anyone relate?
    Does anyone know of any online counselling or help out there?
    I know I need to get calm and work through my issues but some support would be great. We just moved to Townsville and although I have my DS (stay at home) and my DH coming home every day (late avo's) and his days off it a bit lonely and isolated.
    Thank you for reading
    Much appreciated
    Love and light
    Ari
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    I don't suffer from anger quite as severe but I definitely have my bad days. I read a book awhile ago called Buddhism for mothers which had some really useful advice for coping with different emotions including anger (and I really need to read it again most has been forgotten)
    Could you take up a sport like boxing or something, even just a punching bag outside?

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    I am not aware of any counselling but my first thought is to go see your GP and take it from there.



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    You can get workbooks online from amazon and work through them yourself. If you find that this isn't enough to learn some good strategies to deal with anger than seek a professional.

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    Thank you ladies that is very helpful I will get onto some of that advice as soon as possible and update you. Thank you <3

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    Hi Ladies
    Just an update
    I got my Mirena Coil out last month and I am feeling heaps better. Still have some anger issues but way way less than when I had the Mirena coil in. So here's to getting healthier and happier.
    Hope everyone else is doing well.
    Let me know how you are going.
    Cheers
    Ari

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    Hi Ari I just came across your post as I'm dealing with much the same issues as you! How are things going for you these days? Did you try anything that helped?

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    I got my mirena removed thinking my anger was because of that. Unfortunately it didn't help. A friend recommended DIM capsules and I found I'm much better. Apparently they help absorption of eostrogen.

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    Hi Tree Girl
    As you probably read I got the Mirena taken out and things seemed instantly better but then things got worse again and I worked out I had PND. I certainly think the mirena was not for me and did start to change my moods (not for the good) but it probably didn't help that I didnt know or recognise that I had PND until earlier this year..... which I had to go on anti depressants for.
    Do you still have Mirena in? And how long have you had it in for?

    Hi Redcorset
    see above re mirena coil it helped instantly for me but realised other issues were also involved. Can I ask what DIM capsules are? Id be interested in hearing about it more.
    Thanks ladies
    great to hear from you hope to hear back have a great weekend.
    Ari


 

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