Can your dh advocate for you to have a single region take on your "whole" health?
You really need some better ongoing help. Can your psych offer you some phone appointments?
I am sorry, I am only asking you more questions and not giving any answers.
Your DD will be fine at daycare. I was so anti-daycare (i was sure I was sending her to spend her days in a damp dungeon with rats) but DD loves it and has done so well there.