I am not really sure how to word my concern and questions with my situation so please bare with me as this may be long sue to rambling...
With all 3 of my pregnancies I was induced due to hitting the 42 week mark.
My first labour was horrible I was in active labour for 4 days stuck to a hospital bed. Basically what had happened is the nurse put in the drip the wrong way and everything was just circulating through the needle.
My second labour went alot more smoothly, thank god. I was in active labour for only 12 hours.
Now my third labour was what I believe traumatizing for me. I was late also so I had a stretch and sweep and went into active labour that night. While the whole labour only last roughly 6 hours things did not end 'ideal'
With my first two labours while I was pushing and my daughters were crowning the nurse/midwives place warm water down there and it was like instant relief. With my 3rd I went into labour at a different hospital due to moving and I advised the nurse/midwives/doctors that that's all I wanted to help with relief. They had refused to listen me. I was begging for just some warm water while crowning. Finally after around 10-15 minutes they finally gave in as I then refused to push and my son was stuck.
Once he was finally born he arrived almost blue and was not breathing. It took them all roughly 3-4 minutes for them to get him to breath- It felt like a life time and I honestly thought I had lost him. Once he was breathing he was very shaken so they admitted him into special care unit for 2 days. In that time, I was questioned and tested for drug use during my pregnancy purely based on him shaking. I put it down to him also being traumatized. My tests all came back clear which was not suprizing to me.
I am very concerned with this pregnancy/labour that history will repeat itself as I have moved and yet again at a new hospital. My midwife assures me everything will be fine but I cannot shake that feeling this will happen again, to the point that she had told me I needed to stop worrying/stressing as it could cause stress to my baby.
After all that my question is should and can I rely on the staff at the hospital to request my wishes to avoid this happening again as I am seriously considering pain relief just in case.
I am torn and confused