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    Default Clingy 19mth old!

    DD has always been a little clingy and sensitive. But lately she has been really full on... and I had lots of examples to put in here but each one just made me feel like I'm not being sensitive to her needs I guess the biggest one is after about 4 in the afternoon... only mummy will do, as long as I'm sitting next to her, or carrying her, or holding her hand going for little walks around the house she is all good, she doesn't give poor DH a look in and is cranky and whingy when he gives her a bath (but for me... is pretty good!)

    I am a SAHM so she gets plenty of attention through the day, sleeps a couple of hours during the day and sleeps reasonably well most nights. How do you cope with the 'only mummy will do'? is it just a phase??

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    Sounds like classic normal separation anxiety. It's tough, but yes, it does pass.

    Pinky McKay wrote a good article about it.

    http://au.lifestyle.yahoo.com/practi...clingy-babies/

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    We're going through that phase big time at the moment. I remember my ds going through some 'only mummy' phases and other 'only daddy' phases ... I was working full time (gone 12 hours a day 5 days a week) and my dh was a part-time SAHD at this age, so I think that influenced the changes from one to the other of us at times. My dd is much more attached to me as I now only work very part-time, although dh is still very hands on. We've been in the 'Mum-Mum' phase for 4 very long weeks. We have good days & nights and bad days & nights. Where possible I'm getting my dh to do overnight settling in the hope of getting her back to sleeping in her cot (cosleeping was all that worked a few weeks ago and it's not good for my back). Most nights now she is settling ok for dh, but last night she just wanted 'Mum-Mum' so she ended up in bed with us yet again eventually.

    I just keep reminding myself that they do grow up quickly and that this phase will pass ... but I also hope it's *really* soon!

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    Thanks for that, I hadn't really thought about sep anxiety, but all the signs are there!

    Do you know any strategies to deal with it as bit better?

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    We are going through the same thing here!!

    My Dd wakes in the middle of the night wanting just to "hang out" with me, I'm tired so we've been doing some co sleeping.... I think that's just made it worse, so I'm no help, but I understand your pain!!!



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    Same things happening here people!

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    Hi Babyla.

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    The good news is it will pass so there's light at the end of the tunnel I bought a sling ring to wear DS on my hip when walking, even at the park he just wants me to carry him. My back hurts badly but i'd prefer to deal with it then an upset toddler. Making dinner is impossible because he screams and clings to me so i put toys on the floor he sits and plays next to me, just have to be careful of oil splash. We co sleep, each time i wake up for sure he's laying his head on my arm and he wakes me up in the morning with lots of cuddle and sloppy kisses

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    I guess today was a good day, she was happy, playful, very independant most of the day.... i don't know what was different! But ill take it!! Having said that, she was so excitable and playful she refused to have her nap! Here's hoping that tomorrow is juat s good

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    Ellie's mum, my little refused a day sleep today too. I tried and tried, but she wouldn't go down (I have the flu so was hoping for a few hours). Then at 12:30 we went to get milk, bread etc and she fell asleep in the car. I turned around went home and she slept for two hours!


    What do you think is happening? I'm at a loss.


 

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