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    Default i give up

    i give up trying to keep my house in order. i give up trying to be a good mum. it's too hard and no one ever says thanks or you're doing a good job.

    Today i just never seemed to finish anything i started. So i have piles of crap all around me.
    The cat shat on my bed, i washed the sheets but got mid way thro re-making the bed. So thats just been left.
    I got 2 loads of washing inside, the wind blew it all over the yard. It's been dumped on the kitchen table because my toddler wanted to watch a DVD RIGHT NOW...and she cant do it herself and was going to break something if i didnt go to her.
    I have dishes everywhere. ive had 4 attempts at trying to do them, the latest attempt ended in my toddler needing help with going to the potty....she goes 45 times a day and wont pee in a potty thats already been pee'd in. We have 4 pottys around the place, so getting rid of pee is the main thing i do all day. and no, toilet isnt an option yet.
    i tried to vaccume but my toddler thought that was her oporrtunity to go thru the full rubish bin. no vaccuming got done.
    My 8mth old if a fuss pot with his bottles, has half when i offer and then wants the rest 45mins later. so i have to stop everything because he feels like some more milk.

    im now sitting amongst a pile of towels and clothes on the kitchen table at my lap top writing this, just to get it off my chest and because i need 10mins just to brethe and drink this beer ive now opened.
    My toddler is climbing all over me and my 8mth old is screaming wanting to be held for the rest of the night.

    i really regret taking time out for myself on dd's one daycare day this week. all of these chores are usually done then and my house is somewhat clean and im more relaxed and can spend actual time with my kids.
    no, no, no, i can never have a rest.....it backfires.

    thanks ds, for knocking over my beer. im shattered now.

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    Oh hun today is just one day, tomorrow will be better. Get another beer, you deserve it.

    And thank you :-) you're doing a terrific job :-)

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    Yup, open another beer and give your kids a cuddle. The washing will be there tomorrow and the world won't end if it is - promise! Give yourself one achievable task like, do the dishes after the kids go to bed or something - at least it will make breakfast easier

    Don't set yourself up to fail, give yourself little goals - you're doing an awesome job!! And you're your biggest critic, no one and nothing will be affected if your house is untidy for the evening - make a towel fort!

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    We all have days like this! Doesn't matter - even if you'd got the dishes done there would just be more tomorrow anyway.

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    Oh yes! Those days suck balls! Just have another beer, tomorrow will be better, it always is!!

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    Are you generally feeling OK in yourself? Is this just a one off vent, or are you feeling like this a lot of the time?

    Hope tomorrow is a much better day for you.

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    The last two nights I've packed up the toddler and visited my friend for beers and a meal. At home I am overwhelmed and depressed, here I feel human again. Have you got someone, friends/family you can call on for a recharge?

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    I was going to say you need to harden up... Until you mentioned your beer got knocked over!!
    - just kidding sorry you had such a crap day.

    Speaking of crap my cat has dropped bombs in inappropriate places. Meaning we now lock him out of bedrooms. When this cat drops off the perch it's not getting replaced!

    What time so your kids go to bed? Do you get a reprieve?

    Is putting your kids in daycare for 2 days per week an option? That way you get a cleaning day and a "relax" day. Or perhaps hire a cleaner? If not, can your DP give you half a day break during the week?

    I'm pretty particular with my housework but sometimes when I am really tired or busy I say "oh screw it. The house can be messy for a day or two." It takes me a lot of courage to get to that point.

    Hope your day improves

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    Sounds like you had a rough day, it's good to have a vent . So hard getting things done with little kids around. Housework never ends so take a break, tomorrow is a new day!

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    Quote Originally Posted by B00ts View Post
    i give up trying to keep my house in order. i give up trying to be a good mum. it's too hard and no one ever says thanks or you're doing a good job.

    Today i just never seemed to finish anything i started. So i have piles of crap all around me.
    The cat shat on my bed, i washed the sheets but got mid way thro re-making the bed. So thats just been left.
    I got 2 loads of washing inside, the wind blew it all over the yard. It's been dumped on the kitchen table because my toddler wanted to watch a DVD RIGHT NOW...and she cant do it herself and was going to break something if i didnt go to her.
    I have dishes everywhere. ive had 4 attempts at trying to do them, the latest attempt ended in my toddler needing help with going to the potty....she goes 45 times a day and wont pee in a potty thats already been pee'd in. We have 4 pottys around the place, so getting rid of pee is the main thing i do all day. and no, toilet isnt an option yet.
    i tried to vaccume but my toddler thought that was her oporrtunity to go thru the full rubish bin. no vaccuming got done.
    My 8mth old if a fuss pot with his bottles, has half when i offer and then wants the rest 45mins later. so i have to stop everything because he feels like some more milk.

    im now sitting amongst a pile of towels and clothes on the kitchen table at my lap top writing this, just to get it off my chest and because i need 10mins just to brethe and drink this beer ive now opened.
    My toddler is climbing all over me and my 8mth old is screaming wanting to be held for the rest of the night.

    i really regret taking time out for myself on dd's one daycare day this week. all of these chores are usually done then and my house is somewhat clean and im more relaxed and can spend actual time with my kids.
    no, no, no, i can never have a rest.....it backfires.

    thanks ds, for knocking over my beer. im shattered now.
    Ditto - am so hearing you! Just wanted you to know you're not alone (actually your post sounds VERY similar to my life right now..)! Hope your night improves


 

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