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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    She didnt really try that hard to get help. Mentioning she wanted help to her alcoholic foster mother wasn't the best plan. If she had told a doctor or child services herself then I might believe she was serious about wanting help.
    Sometimes when you ask for help, you don't get it.
    I saw my GP when my first DD was about 18months when I was suffering severe PND. He referred me on to a therapist.
    On my first visit I told her of my intense rage and feelings of wanting to hurt my toddler, not an easy thing to own up to. She asked me what sort of things can set these feelings off, so I told her of an incident where DD had thrown around the clean, folded washing. She proceeded to give me hints and tips on how to get the washing put away quickly so DD couldn't get to it. Not once, in all my sessions did she address my rage.
    In the end it took me seeing 6 different professionals in varying fields until I found someone who could actively help me with my feelings and behaviour. Sometimes, even when you want help, it can be hard to find. I only persevered because my loving and supportive DP kept encouraging me to seek help. If I had been on my own, I wouldn't have sought help, and that could have been disastrous.


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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I disagree. She could have and should have tried harder. Depression is no excuse:
    Out of interest, have you ever suffered debilitating mental illness?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atropos View Post
    Out of interest, have you ever suffered debilitating mental illness?
    Depends what your definition is!

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I disagree. She could have and should have tried harder. Depression is no excuse:
    I don't think anyone is excusing her exactly. In my opinion she is definitely responsible for what happened. After reading a bit about her though, I can't help but feel compassion for her. Life is rarely black and white...

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    I feel for all involved. Those poor babies, their family and the unwell mum. She might get 8 years in gaol, but she must also serve a life sentence in living with what she did. I can only imagine what sort of emotional place she was in at the time, and what she is going through now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Depends what your definition is!
    Severe pnd? PTSD? Clinical depression? Anything like that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atropos View Post
    Severe pnd? PTSD? Clinical depression? Anything like that?
    Probably not that advanced.

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    Ah = spoken like a person who has no clue what mental illness is like. Should I also mention to my friend who committed suicide that she just didn't try hard enough?

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    Jeez - now it is changing the word F * a * r* k!

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    ****, that is even more tragic - and she told her mother and foster mother that she wasn't coping!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sakabla View Post
    Sometimes when you ask for help, you don't get it.
    I saw my GP when my first DD was about 18months when I was suffering severe PND. He referred me on to a therapist.
    On my first visit I told her of my intense rage and feelings of wanting to hurt my toddler, not an easy thing to own up to. She asked me what sort of things can set these feelings off, so I told her of an incident where DD had thrown around the clean, folded washing. She proceeded to give me hints and tips on how to get the washing put away quickly so DD couldn't get to it. Not once, in all my sessions did she address my rage.
    In the end it took me seeing 6 different professionals in varying fields until I found someone who could actively help me with my feelings and behaviour. Sometimes, even when you want help, it can be hard to find. I only persevered because my loving and supportive DP kept encouraging me to seek help. If I had been on my own, I wouldn't have sought help, and that could have been disastrous.


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    Thanks so much for sharing sakabla. I'm so sorry to hear that you went through that.

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