Thanks for everyone's replies. DP & I were able to sit down last night once got kids (who are sick stupid flu) off to bed & sort out a budget & prioritise money & spending. And told go. How his actions make me feel. A lot of it was coming from he felt he worked hard & entitled to spend $ and make himself feel better kinda thing & felt he wasn't supporting us right. So we addressed all issues & for first time in a long time I feel he actually heard & got what I was saying . I think we still have to work a bit with communication. But feel a lot better now knowing spending & $ issues are sorted & my feelings were heard & acknowledged.