Dh & I have a joint bank account and all of the money is ours, but he still would never take money out of my wallet without asking first and vise versa.
Being angry at him (especially considering his past) is not at all unreaaonable. I would absolutely be giving him what for.
Thanks for everyone's replies
Yes DP did take DS meds that issue has been sorted & he knows ill leave his as$ if he ever puts my boy at risk like that again.
Missie mack. About not having access to $ his pay goes into his account & my FTB into mine so I dunno how I'd go about that. Knowing that he's not good with $ I certainly don't want a joint account
Nancy blanket we are TTC ATM yes n that's why I'm addressing this issue now & looking for advice & ways to approach this & get through to him
Temet. I like your idea of putting $ aside for myself I hadn't thought of that
He is acting incredibly selfish n I wanna kick him up the rear end but I don't wanna walk out on our family n say I've had enough I'd prefer to try work through it & find a solution first.
Can you sit down with him and work out a budget together? Include all bills, rent, money for meds etc, food, car, fuel, kids school, kids clothes, insurance. Show him how much there is left after all this gets paid etc and work out how much spending money you can have each.
One thing I remember from reading something from Kochie was to plan regular 'financial dates'. Decide on a time to discuss your financial matters and do it.
Fx you guys can work it out
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Thanks. I know my DP needs help & as such I went to his psychiatrist appointment with him last week I could have nearly strangled the psychiatrist. He dismissed all of my concerns spoke to me like I was stupid & about me like I was invisible said it was all because of the ADHD & In front if me said to my partner "well you're trying so now you just have to try keep your other half happy just do what she wants n you won't get in trouble" and also dismissed my concerns over dp temper & depressive moods saying to me " what more do u want from the bloke" whilst I was trying to explain how impulsive he can be & how his moods are erratic. & how he's not very good with $ etc. gave him his script & said "heres your script & just try to keep her happy & you won't have a problem ". I'm thinking maybe a different psychiatrist & looking on google now for budgeting courses or something similar I could ask DP to go to with me. To try get him to own some of the financial responsibility. & grow up a bit &be less selfish.
Also looking into joint account with only 1 card & I have the card & see if he will agree to that ??? I dunno what else to try.
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