As many regulars probably know my exH and I have a very good co parenting relationship. The only stipulation I've ever had is that his GF (who was my best friend he had an affair with while I was 5 months pregnant with our second) is not to look after my boys on her own. This isn't just a spiteful, controlling request. She used to tell me things she did to her step son (rubbed his face in pee cos he kept dribbling on the floor, tipped his dinner on his head cos he was taking too long to finish. Etc.). I also witnessed her really belittling and speaking to him like a dog. Mentally and emotionally abusing him.
My other friend and I felt really terrible about not stepping in sooner. But regardless I've asked that he not have my boys with her alone. Obviously she is regularly around them with him and I don't have any issue with that, nor have I told him how to parent or anything else - just that one point alone.
Well today he decided to leave them with her while he went to uni. Tonight is usually my night anyway but he said he could watch them cos I was sick. Which I thought was wonderful. Now I'm absolutely seething with him and just so upset. I'm sure she wound t hurt them in that time. They don't live together so it would be more like a little babysitting thing. Bit I'm missing those kids like crazy and to find out she has them on MY night has made my blood boil. My mum or sisters could've watched them. If I knew he was busy I wouldn't have accepted his offer to have them....
Sorry just ex venting - which doesn't happen often.