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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    I think it depends on the people. My 2 brothers and sister could not wait to take my dad's name. My sister is married but my 2 brothers still have my dad's surname and so do their kids.
    I won't be shocked if DD comes to me once I have kids with DP and wants his surname. He's been her father for longer her own father was. I know right now she wants MY surname... but her father is uncontactable and likely won't agree anyway (just to spite me).

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    I won't be shocked if DD comes to me once I have kids with DP and wants his surname. He's been her father for longer her own father was. I know right now she wants MY surname... but her father is uncontactable and likely won't agree anyway (just to spite me).
    Sassy, given the fact he isn't contactable, would this give you a case to have it changed without his consent?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    I think it depends on the people. My 2 brothers and sister could not wait to take my dad's name. My sister is married but my 2 brothers still have my dad's surname and so do their kids.
    I agree it depends on the people. In some cases a name change for the kids is warranted and wanted. In others (hubby) it's just a 'look Ive moved on with my new husband' grab by the mother (my Mil).

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I agree it depends on the people. In some cases a name change for the kids is warranted and wanted. In others (hubby) it's just a 'look Ive moved on with my new husband' grab by the mother (my Mil).
    This is why I'm so glad we sort the advice of a child psychologist who was more than happy to support DS1. It was never about us but just wanting to support him and what was best for him.
    I can't say I'm disappointed that we're all one name now. It's kind of nice and he feels at peace with it all. The way he sees it, they all have the same Dad, he hated being segregated (his own interpretation).

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    Quote Originally Posted by faroutbrusselsprout View Post
    This is why I'm so glad we sort the advice of a child psychologist who was more than happy to support DS1. It was never about us but just wanting to support him and what was best for him.
    I can't say I'm disappointed that we're all one name now. It's kind of nice and he feels at peace with it all. The way he sees it, they all have the same Dad, he hated being segregated (his own interpretation).
    I think a parent who seeks the advice of a child psychologist obviously has their kids best interests at heart

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    My family have a tradition of women keeping their names...helps weed out telemarketers
    My mum always joked she would sign our school forms 'passer by'!
    I like DD having DP's surname, I got to carry her for 9mths and she carries my mitochondrial DNA

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    I've only had DS for 8 weeks but it hasn't really been a problem for us yet. When I booked him in at the docs for his vaccinations they asked if his last name was the same as mine and I just told them no and gave then his correct surname.

    We are getting married next year but I have no intention of changing my name. I wanted DS to have a hyphenated name but DF didn't like the idea. It still makes me a bit sad that he didn't get to have my name as well but oh well. We compromised by picking a family name of mine for his middle name.

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    Well I have never been married so have obviously kept my maiden name, but my kids have their dad's surname. I've never been questioned about this to be honest.

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    Both my girls have their fathers surname, which is different to mine. We were never married. If my DP and I have children they will have his surname and while we have discussed marriage it's not high on our agenda and I am not sure I would take his name if we did get married so chances are I will have kids with 2 different surnames to mine.

    I have never had anyone comment on the difference between my girls names and mine but I get the occassional confused expression as there last name is very asian and mine isn't, obviously I don't look at all asian and they don't really either, they look mixed but not asian. The only person who ever said anything was the receptionist at my Dr's after I'd been going there for years pre-pregnancy and after the kids were born for about 5 years. She wasn't rude and it was actually really out of the blue. She said "Oh wow I only just realised you hadn't adopted your girls, I saw you pregnant twice! I'm not sure what I thought happened to your babies!!" I am pretty sure she was just having a ditzy day!


 

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