Hi ladies, looking for a bit of advice of how to deal with my sister (mum of 4) who thinks she knows everything about being pregnant!
I'm 6 weeks pregnant with my first, conceived through IVF/ICSI. It has obviously taken a lot to get to this point, and I'm quite stressed about getting through the next 6 weeks and beyond safely.
My DH & I are living with my parents whilst our house is being built, and over the weekend my sister brought her kids to visit. Problem is, they've all been sick with a stomach virus all week - which is the last thing I need when I'm already dealing with nausea!
We were out when they arrived, but quickly stopped in so I could pee and we could pick up a couple of things. I popped my head into the room to say hello/goodbye and took off for the front door. My niece ran up and hugged me, I apologised to her and said I didn't want to hug because she's been sick.
My sister got really offended that I didn't want to stay and talk to her (she left a second hand skirt on my bed as a "present" which is quite worn and nothing like I would wear!). Later on she send me a message saying how much I'd hurt her and she's been pregnant 4 times so she knows the dangers of getting sick when pregnant, etc, etc.
Yes, I probably could have handled things better, but I was having an off day as it was, but this has really stressed me out and I feel that it's really insensitive of my sister to go on about how her feelings and how she's some sort of expert on pregnancy. Only one of her 4 kids was planned and it doesn't cost her $10k, multiple daily injections, medications and surgery just to have a CHANCE at getting pregnant! I'm being carefully medicated even now due to immune issues to make sure my body doesn't inadvertently attack the embryo - she just doesn't seem to understand that I don't want to take any chances.
It doesn't help either that my mum is backing her up on this and seems to think I'm over-reacting, "you're not the first woman in history to be pregnant you know" type of statements. Any ideas how I can deal with family members like this?? I might not be the first woman in the world to be pregnant, but it's the first time for me and they just don't seem to understand that an IVF pregnancy is much more complex than anything they've experienced