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    Default Is 8 years too far apart??

    I have 2 DDs (2 1/2 years apart) but i've been clucky for 8 years now. My biggest concern is falling pg at my age now (34) and also having such a big gap between 2 & 3. Would number 3 effectively be an only child as I would only have one more?? Both my girls have said they want a baby in the house so I am not worried about how they will cope. DP is petrified of fatherhood so that would be a whole other hurdle.

    I guess I am just wondering if anyone else out there has had such a big gap and what are your thoughts on it?

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    There is 18 years between my first and last I have 6 kids and they are spread out. I find the big gaps the best. The older ones just love the younger ones so much. In fact my dd1 and ds2 (14 yr gap) are the closest of the whole bunch.

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    I would love a boy and hope this might make the age gap easier to bear for my girls lol

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    I had my first 15 years ago. It is very different being pregnant in my 30's, I do need to take it a bit easier but my DD is really excited about finally being a big sister and has been a wonderful help.

    So it will be like I have had 2 'only' children which may not be such a bad thing. There are a lot of benefits to being an only child. I am also looking forward to my DD and DP being able to bond over this new baby as it will link them both.

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    orlyon, did you have any issues falling pregnant with #2?

    I am hoping because my body has done it before i will be fine but it is a concern i have.

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    I have 7 years between my 1st 2.. I like the gap, so do they!

    Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Baby Girl View Post
    orlyon, did you have any issues falling pregnant with #2?

    I am hoping because my body has done it before i will be fine but it is a concern i have.
    I have PCOS and was told, by a specialist, just 4months before my positive pregnancy test that I should really think about getting into an ivf program if I wanted to ever have another baby. At the time I was thinking about the possibility but certainly not trying. I ended up conceiving on the mini pill!

    So I guess I had no trouble. I'm thinking I might like to try for no 3 maybe, see how this goes first.

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    Baby Girl Mine are all a bit closer but my best friend has 7 1/2 years between her two boys. And the younger one is 7 in feb and she is thinking now of going again. I think you make any age gap work if you want it to! I am 30 my brother is 28 and my sister is 17. She grew up as kind of an "only child" but she finishes year 12 this year and is doing fantastic! She also gets the added bonus of being an aunty at the ripe old age of 7!! I get along great with her. Just like a normal sister (fights included)... Mum often teases us saying with 13 years between us you think we wouldnt fight like that lol!! I say go for it!!!

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    My wife was 43 when we had our last and about about 22 yrs from 1st to last largest in the gap in the group is 4 years. Our family is great

    My you mum had 4. youngest is 20 yrs younger than me and the next inline is 5 yrs younger than me.

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    I have 8.5 yrs between 1 and 3 and it has worked really well. I'm still trying to decide if the older sister or the baby brother is the new toy. She's always trying to carry him around, feed him, play with him etc. At least she's at school during the day so he gets a break!


 

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